Needing wise counsel from MNetters please. Sorry it's a bit long.
When we got married we agreed on 2-3 children, should we be so lucky.
We now have two beautiful DDs, aged 2 and nearly 4. I definitely want a third. We have been dancing around the issue for the last 12 months but last night DH said he definitely didn't want to try for a third.
I didn't realise how much I did until now. I think I had just been blissfully carrying on with my own imagination presuming he would eventually come around to it.
What do I do from here? Can/should I keep trying to convince him? Definitely wont be considering planning an 'accidental' pregnancy.
I just feel like my life plan has been reshaped in the last 24 hours and feel a bit physically sick. I know I'm being a bit silly. Rational input required!
More info; I'm 37, DH has just turned 40. we have a 5 bedroom house, financially we are fine so whilst it would be an additional cost we could afford it, I am a fraternal twin so heightened chances (one of his reasons for being against it), I had PND after DD2 (another reason against a third), I had a prolapse after our first (a third reason) which is much improved but I did have to have a CS for DD2 and would again for future pregnancies.
We are now living close to my family so would have a million times more support this time around. I went back to work six months ago but have recently decided to set up my own business from home freelancing as not feeling I'm spending enough time with the girls before they go to school.
It has been a stressful few years for various reasons including his parents ill health, moving countries and having small babies. DH is happy with our lot and sees now as the chance to enter stage two of parenthood. Whereas I see it as an opportunity to have DC3 in a much nicer situation than we had the first two.
Arrrggh. He's not being unreasonable but we just disagree. What do we do?!
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DC3 - I REALLY want to, he doesn't. Where to from here?!
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twinsister · 13/07/2013 22:51
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