I have been having challenges with my 5 yr old. Lots of squabbling with sister and since she has had a later bedtime and time with me and dad in her own that has been a lot better.
But she is pushing all the time. My default is to shout and I am ashamed to say I have done it a lot at times and it has made things worse.
I am doing a lot better and staying calm and want to use natural consquences of behaviour but here are two examples where I can see no natural consquence and hence see only resorting to punishment, to which she says " I don't care"
so two examples: this morning we are ready for preschool and the children do not need to be there until 9 am but I need to go to my classes and hence what to get out of the house. 5 yr old is ready and. then goes under her bed. So, it is not important to her whether we leave the house on time or not, but it is to me. So someone tell me what you do?
2nd example: upstairs in her room and cut a new pair of tights of her sister. I was cross and told her I was angry, but did not shout. But what else can you do that does not involve withdrawal of a privilege? i have said she cannot do any games on the computer this weekend (normally both have 10 mins most days but I have said only 4 yr old will get).
I am so pi8ed off with rewards and punishments, I am so fed up with it but do not know how to get off the treadmill when you face behaviour that has no natural consequence for the child.
any help appreciated.
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I am all for "natural consquences" but someone tell me what you do when they don't exist.
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cantnookian · 15/03/2013 16:35
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