I've hardly slept with worry after this happened yesterday...(sorry if a little long)
Went to see a friend who has 2 DC 4y & 18 months, with my own DCs. I suggested we took kids to local pond to feed the ducks, which is a 10 minute drive away. She hesitated then said she couldn't as she's already had 3 vodkas (this was 11am) and over the driving limit. At first I thought she was joking, she didn't appear the slightest drunk. She then went on to tell me, this is how she copes with the long repetitive days of being a SAHM (she does a little book keeping, but works from home). She said it makes her calmer with the children & never gets so drunk she cannot function. In her defence her children are always clean, dressed,no evidence of neglect.
I know she has been on anti depressants for nearly a year (something we have talked about in the past, as I have had depression episodes on and off my whole life and I think she feels able to talk to me about it). She said the drinking started just before Christmas, to get her 'through' the festive period & it has continued.
Her DH doesn't know & she said he would be so disappointed in her, that she couldn't tell him. On reflection, I'm not sure he even knows about the anti depressants.
So...what do I do?
As a friend I told her she can always talk to me (although I am in no way qualified to give her advice) & if ever there was emergency and needed to drive to phone me and I would drive. I obviously suggested she needed professional help, but she insisted not. She doesn't want social services being alerted, which she believes would happen if she went to her GP/HV (would it? I don't know)
Feel I'm in over my head here as I want to help, but don't know how?
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WWYD...friend reveals alcohol issues
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houmousandcarrotsandwich · 21/02/2013 08:56
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