Dd1 is 4 - just. She is a lovely kid, but I am finding that she is often rude in social settings. Some of this is about disobedience - she will often not do as she's told. She can behave very well when she wants to, but this is the issue. At the moment her mum is very unwell and I just need her to do what she is told (within reason), e.g. Eat breakfast, clean teeth etc. without making a big fuss. She will often go out of her way to annoy - repeatedly kicking legs etc when continually told to stop. She often says 'stop,talking to me' or 'don't be cross' but seems unable to understand that she has to change her behaviour. We have just started pasta jar- she did well for first couple of days, got her treat, but today has consistently ignored requests, back chatted, made demands (not granted), so has gained no pastas and has lost some.
She is doing well at nursery and they report that she is well behaved. I suspect that we give it too much attention and make it too complicated. But how can I get her to see that she is responsible for her own actions. She said this evening that the bad behaviour had been an 'accident', when I explained that it was her who did the various things she refused to respond.
Any ideas? As I say, she can be lovely and delightful, plays well with friends, is nice to her sister etc.
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Teaching social rules, refusal to do as told
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rhetorician · 11/02/2013 20:11
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