I'm posting here as I think the root of my question relates to how two people co-operate as parents.
We have 2 DDs: DD1 is 4yo and DD2 is 10mo. DH works full time and I'm predominantly a SAHM.
Now, I am more than happy to get up to the girls in the night should they wake. DH, however, is reluctant to have me do this because he feels that, as I look after them for most of/all of the day, I need to be fully re-charged to do this adequately. Therefore, he gets up to them most of the time. This really is at his insistence. DH wakes more easily than me and says that he doesn't see the point of then waking me for me to tend to them. I can get migraines if I don't sleep properly, so I think this might be a driving force for him, too.
I have friends who are either SAHM's or who work part-time with children of similar ages and their DP/DHs
have a very different opinion: they think that, because the women are at home, that they should do most/all night duties. They don't see that being a SAHM is a job in itself. One friends DH refused to help her in the night because as she woke to BF anyway, he didn't see
the point of getting up at all (even to get the baby from the other room, or to see if she needed anything from downstairs).
So, I'm curious as to how other's DPs/DHs perceive their 'role' when the woman is fully or mostly a SAHM. Is my DH in the minority?
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MolotovCocktail · 11/02/2013 20:05
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