This will probably sound strange and wrong to pretty much everyone but I'm hoping someone out there will have felt the same at some point...
We didn't find out the sex of our baby. When I found out I was pregnant at first I was convinced it was a boy, although I really didn't mind either way. At my 20 week scan a midwife referred to it as "she" so I thought perhaps it was a girl after all.
I thought so much about our baby in the later stages of pregnancy, but never imagined it as a boy or a girl really, just our baby.
When he was born - yes a DS - he was put on my chest and my first thought was "it's a girl" - before DH told me - "it's a boy!" I think I thought he was a girl because he looks like me and had quite soft features.
I love my son so much and of course i know he's a boy but I struggle to think of him as a "he". I have called him "she" in conversation and find myself browsing baby girl clothes. I have only sisters as does my DH and their first borns were girls so perhaps this is why.
I feel guilty and twisted for thinking this way. I honestly couldn't and wouldn't love him more if he were a girl so I don't know why my mind is playing tricks on me like this. I've tried talking to DH and other mum friends about this but it's clear they just don't get it.
Can anyone help? Will this feeling go away?
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Gender issues/confusion for new mum
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ivanapoo · 09/02/2013 12:36
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