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What is the BEST parenting book you have read?

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Timetoask · 06/02/2013 11:17

I think I am in need of a ?refresher course?? I am not interested in books covering the baby phase, or books that focus on naughtly behavior, naughty corners or how to make sure your child eat well..

I want some to the point advice of helping DS (6) with being assertive (but without loosing his temper), how to handle friendship/playground issues, and generally how to help him grow with great of emotional intelligence.

For lots of people these things are natural, not for me. Can someone recommend a really good book/s I can read please?

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afterdinnerkiss · 06/02/2013 11:24

The Successful Child by Dr. Sears. It covers from birth to teens with insight and understanding. Really lovely and makes complete sense.

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SignoraStronza · 06/02/2013 11:24

Dr Sears 'The Baby Book'
Some of it was a bit ott and I wouldn't describe what I do with dcs as 'attachment parenting' as I don't follow a particular child rearing philosophy but it really helped me understand why babies and toddlers do (or don't) do the things they do and was very informative.

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SignoraStronza · 06/02/2013 11:26

Sorry op, just read back your post and realised your dc is 6. Would still second another's suggestion and have a look at other Sears books though.

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Timetoask · 06/02/2013 11:27

Thank you both...
I am so sorry for all my tying mistakes!

Dr. Sears is a clever man then!

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choceyes · 06/02/2013 11:27

A friend recommended this:
www.amazon.co.uk/The-Incredible-Years-Carolyn-Webster-Stratton/dp/1892222043?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21
She attended a parenting course and was given this book and they highly recommend it. I haven't read it yet, but planning to do so soon.

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choceyes · 06/02/2013 11:27

A friend recommended this:
www.amazon.co.uk/The-Incredible-Years-Carolyn-Webster-Stratton/dp/1892222043?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21
She attended a parenting course and was given this book and they highly recommend it. I haven't read it yet, but planning to do so soon.

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stargirl1701 · 06/02/2013 11:29

Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph.

Nurture shock by Po Bronson

Toxic Childhood by Sue Palmer

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NoraFatimaBuffet · 06/02/2013 11:37

'How to talk so kids will listen (and how to listen so kids will talk)' is a good one for improving communication, and would help you achieve the rest of your aims even if it isn't a child development book itself. The techniques have definitely improved things in our house!

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Timetoask · 06/02/2013 11:40

Thank you for the suggestions.
I read "Raising boys" a few years back and thought it was really good. I am looking for something more tailored to emotional intelligence, communication skills, getting on with people generally....

I will make a note of the books you all suggest and start reading some extract to decide which one to buy.

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Zoidberg · 06/02/2013 20:34

I think the best is How to Talk so Kids Will Listen, and Listen so Kids Will Talk.

I really like Raising Your Spirited Child too but because I could very much relate to it, so recommended if your child is one such as they describe (basically More intense/energetic/loud).

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Timetoask · 07/02/2013 10:31

Zoidberg, I wouldn't call DS spirited child, but I need to find ways of helping him improve his social skills, communication with other children, assertiveness. You get the idea?

(all the things I am useless at basically).

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stargirl1701 · 07/02/2013 12:08

Is there a social skills group at his school? Do SALT run any groups in your area?

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Sioda · 07/02/2013 20:36

Try Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. Or I think he also a has a book co authored with someone else about emotional intelligence for kids called Building Emotional Intelligence. Sounds like it might be what you're looking for.

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Timetoask · 08/02/2013 09:55

stargirl: School don't have a social skills group, they do lots of group playing at school. He is fine at school in general. It's when I see him with other children that I notice his (don't want to call them problems because they are not) notice the things he needs to improve on...

Thank you Sioda.. will have a look at that book.

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amazingmumof6 · 08/02/2013 12:47

"Child rearing for fun" by Anne Atkins

"Bringing up boys" by Dr. James Dobson

"The power of a Praying Parent" by Stormie Omartian

"The five love languages of children" by Graham Chapman

all give fantastic advise based on the teachings of the Bible.

I do suggest to anyone who doesn't care about religion to read the last one, it gives brilliant ideas on how to deal with children of different characters - the practical advice about how to get to know your child better and how to understand what makes them tick is just so insightful.

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stargirl1701 · 08/02/2013 13:05

Have you heard of Social Stories? They can be a good way of teaching specific social skills in specific situations.

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Timetoask · 08/02/2013 14:47

stargirl... yes actually, I have heard about them (my eldest has special needs). The ones I have found have been very basic because of the needs of my eldest. Is there a website you could recommend for a child without special needs?

amayingmum: thanks for that list. Which of all those is the best in your view?

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amazingmumof6 · 08/02/2013 15:14

timetoask - oops, I didn't actually realize you needed help on how to help your child, sorry, I thought you were asking for general advice..


I actually think that if you get to know him better and help him build his confidence, he'll be able to deal with things better at school - if you give him roots, he'll grow his wings.

so for that I'd advise the "love languages" for you

the Dobson book is just general help, not a baby book, but how to help boys to grow and mature and have a good relationship with you up to the teenage years and beyond.

I'll have a think what you are looking for and ask my friends & family - will get back to you if I unearth something that is specific to your needs

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Timetoask · 08/02/2013 15:18

I know him really well actually. He is very confident. Just needs to improve his communication skills, learn how to socialise better, and how to be more assertive with his ideas.
Sorry if I am not explaining it properly.

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amazingmumof6 · 08/02/2013 15:52

you said "It's when I see him with other children that I notice his (don't want to call them problems because they are not) notice the things he needs to improve on...


may I ask what kind of things did you notice?

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amazingmumof6 · 08/02/2013 15:54

I mean something specific.

I think I probably look like I'm really dumb, but I don't think I understand what kind of problems you think there are

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Polygon · 08/02/2013 18:58

I really liked "Playful Parenting" by Lawrence Cohen - might be helpful in your circumstances (I have similar issues with 7 yr old dd). Maybe though rather than a book for you to read on your own, you could do with books to read together with your ds - and talk about how characters in the book handled things. I am always on the look out for this kind of book - and would be grateful for any suggestions.
We read the "Cat in the Hat" by Dr. Seuss and talk about the situation there. The cat is nice and friendly but is deciding everything and it´s hard for the children to keep control of the situation. They do finally say stop loud and clear - which is good. But then the cat pretends to feel hurt and tries to make them feel like the "meanies" - which is just manipulative. I find it quite an interesting book to discuss: how do the children feel at each point in the book? what could the children have done differently? what should the cat have asked, thought about, said, to be fairer?. That kind of thing.
The Faraway tree books by Enid Blyton have sections where the children are really assertive and where we talked about how brave they were and what a good idea it was.
We have "How to be a friend - a guide to making friends and keeping them" Dino life guide by Brown and Brown. It´s a bit American but I read it with the kids every now and then when we need to discuss issues of difficult behaviour - either by them or done to them.
I´ll come back if I can think of any other examples.

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Timetoask · 10/02/2013 05:57

Thank you Polygon, that is really helpful. Your ideas sound fantastic. If you can think if anything else pleas come back.
I am off to buy a few books now.

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Polygon · 10/02/2013 07:39

We get at least the kids books from our local library. Our library isn´t so good on adult parenting books, but they have some...

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substitutemycokeforgin · 11/02/2013 19:14

The Contented Little B... nahhhhh, maybe not!

It's only just out, but Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Laura Markham is shaping up to be my favourite so far. You just read it going "yes, yes!" and welling up at parts, and I'm only on about page 20!

Amazingmumof6, not the Graham Chapman??!! :-D

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