Arguing over parenting

[Ra88]

Basically as the title says . Me and dp seem to be constantly arguing about our 3 yr old dd . He winds her up constantly (his "joking") and then I have her run into me crying so I give her a hug etc and he then "tells me off"

I'm fed up of listening to dd whining and moaning but really it's because of him ! He thinks we gang up on him and he's now in a mood saying if it carries on then he moving out he's fed up of it !

I said he's being pathetic but he says he can't so it anymore. He is down ATM because of being out of wok and now working in a factory which he's not has to do since he was 18! But this has been going on sinc she was about 1!

I feel like saying you know what if your saying if it carries on your going then go now ! F.off!

Aibu??

[Ra88]

Sorry for typos I'm on my phone grr

[fedupwithdeployment]

Have you thought about trying to get on a parenting course? I don't have any knowledge of them, but I know our clocal council runs them....it might be easier for him to hear advice from someone else (not you!)

Whatver happens, you both need to "sing from teh same song sheet" where parenting is concerned, and it doesn't sound like that is happening.

Good luck.

[Iggly]

Why on earth does he wind up his daughter?

What a horrible thing to do.

[exBrightonBell]

Your partner sounds incredibly immature. Tbh I would not tolerate someone treating a child like that, and the fact that it is her dad is despicable.

The suggestion of a parenting course could be a good idea, and you need to lay the law down with him about how he should interact with his child. It is not a question of arguing over parenting styles. What he is doing is verging on emotional abuse, and you need to step in and protect your daughter. If that means he has to move out then so be it. Think how confusing and upsetting the current situation must be for her.