Mums of 3!

(38 Posts)
Ameybee Tue 29-Jan-13 19:53:30

I have DD 3 and DS 4 months, we have always said we wanted 3 as me and DH are both one of 3 and love having siblings. But I have found having 2 tough, had PND and DS not a great sleeper still. DH says he's not sure he wants no 3 and thinks he's too old! (He's 38 I'm 29). Obviously we don't have to make any decisions & I'm thinking take it as it comes and decide in a few years. So what I'm wondering is... Is it much harder with 3? Xx

AGreenie Wed 30-Jan-13 22:05:49

I love having 3 - wanted 4 to be honest but dh wasn't so keen. My eldest. 2 are close in age (19 months) and the gap between 2-3 is 3.5 years..... Dc3 is adorable, in to everything, so cheeky, not a great sleeper, and I feel like I have no time to do anything even though am SAHM now (after working FT up until mat leave).... Wouldn't have it any other way....

NatzCNLS Wed 30-Jan-13 21:57:19

I habe 3 DD's 6, 4 (will be 5 next week) and 1. Only 16 mths betweed DD1 and DD2. DD1 was a huge shock to the system even though she was a fantastic sleeper and an all round sweetheart - still is - found the first 6 months with DD2 very easy. Got harder as she got mobile but was more confident as a mother then. DD3 I've barely noticed change the family other than to make it even happier. I was terrified about having number 3 but she has just fitted in so well. I couldn't imagine our family without her.

I was 26 when I had DD1, 27 with DD2 and just turned 31 with DD3. I love having 3 kids and am happy we have completed our family now. Even though DH has started hinting at number 4 hmm - nah ah. grin

Poledra Wed 30-Jan-13 14:57:27

Another person for whom 0-1 was the hardest transition! DD3 was a fairly easy baby and I was so much more relaxed than with DD1. I definitely let my standards slip grin Would have had DC4 perhaps, if it wasn't for the fact we had some prebirth health scares with DD3 so decided to quit while we were ahead. Oh, and I was older than you are now when I had DD1, never mind DD3!

thefirstmrsrochester Wed 30-Jan-13 14:56:11

irnbru are you my doppelgänger?
<casts sad eyes over empty fridge>

thefirstmrsrochester Wed 30-Jan-13 14:54:19

Found 1 was so hard, 2 (15 months apart in age) a breeze, dc3 was a dream. 3rd babies just get on with it. Now they are 8, 12 & 13 it's a totally different picture. Running battles really. I'm from a family of 4 & we fought like cat and dog as children but get on great now.

Ameybee Wed 30-Jan-13 14:47:43

Thank you for all the replies! Will decide once we are through the 4 month sleep regression which appears to be relentless at the
Moment!! At 4am this morning my opinion on no 3 was nooo way! grin X

lljkk Wed 30-Jan-13 11:20:02

Number 3 is my difficult child.
Number 4 is a dream lovely smile. Not sure it was worth getting thru number 3 to get him, though.

IrnBruTheNoo Wed 30-Jan-13 10:59:38

"You might regret not doing it though."

You can't regret something you've never had an experience of. If you're never raised three DC, how can you regret it?

IrnBruTheNoo Wed 30-Jan-13 10:58:20

Don't just think of a baby, think of three grown up DC who will eat you out of house and home and constantly all need new clothing, cost of school trips (for each of them), pocket money (x3).....the list is endless.

It's all very well thinking with your heart, but how you cope on a day to day basis is much more important than your huge desire to have three DC, IMO. If you're finding it a struggle just now, why put yourself through it all again to impact on your mental wellbeing.

ProlificWillyBreeder Wed 30-Jan-13 09:05:23

I'm contemplating number 4 so 3 isn't too bad grin

Ohhelpohnoitsa Tue 29-Jan-13 22:35:06

dc3 had been easy for us and has made a perfect addition.
I do think some thimgs change though - we dont really ask for anyome to help / babysit m sleepovers etc butif we did, Ivd think twice about asking anyone to have 3. It's. only afyet a year that I feel happy that dh can cope as it is pleasantly relentless. Do it OP, you may tear your hair out and raise your voice sometimes but you wont regret it. You might regret not doing it though.

ticklebug74 Tue 29-Jan-13 22:32:18

I have found dc3 the hardest but she (at 14 weeks) is an appalling sleeper and permanently attached to my boob. It's hard on the other dc (6 and 4) but time is whizzing by and before we know it she'll be running around bossing us all about.

I am still in the oh my god stage and suffering mild PND and have what seems like an unsupportive husband and we have no family around. BUT I always wanted 3, knew it would be tough, and wouldn't change it for the world. Even through my sleep deprived, toe curling nipple pain tears, my heart swells with love for my 3 lovely dc! :-)

Go for it! :-)

BackforGood Tue 29-Jan-13 22:27:04

0-1 was just such a shock for me. Sooooooooooo overwhelming.
No2 was a breeze
No3 I hardly noticed. I was so much more relaxed, and have 'enjoyed' her so much more than dcs 1 and 2 when they were little.

Happypiglet Tue 29-Jan-13 22:26:07

I would just add that having three was easiest when DC3 was a baby (first 12 months really). Once she started putting her oar in things got more tricky as she broke up my boys cozy twosome!
But she has been the best thing ever to happen to DC2. They adore each other. DC1 has a slightly strained different relationship with DC3 ...
Now they are 8,7 & 5 it's fun but full on. I absolutely love it.

forgottenpassword Tue 29-Jan-13 22:22:49

Love having 3 and like others 0 - 1 was biggest shock. No 3 slotted in nicely. Would have a fourth if I had more time and money.

Yfronts Tue 29-Jan-13 22:19:38

I found 2 hard. My second was a whirlwind and I had mild PND. Third was a dream baby - very easy but I also had mild PND again. Thankfully I also had a weekly cleaner to take the strain. I am busier then having 2 but we all find the youngest addition quite funny/entertaining.

Cakethrow Tue 29-Jan-13 22:19:05

Only a novice mum of 3 (DC3 is only 3.5 weeks old!) but so far he has just slotted in.

I found 0-1 really tough as DD had reflux and didn't sleep through until she was 22 months. In hindsight I may have had undiagnosed PND too but no confirms experience of this.
1-2 was easier (23 months between them) although DS1 had some medical problems which needed to be diagnosed and sorted so a lot of his early memories are a blur and I was on autopilot for the first 12 months or so.
2-3 has so far been ok. There's 23 months between Ds1 and DS2 and both the older two have been fantastic. They get on and play argue together and also help me out lots. They love their little brother to bits and have accepted him brilliantly. prepares self to eat own words as ds2 gets older
It probably helps that I'm more easy going this time round, too.

No.3 was like being hit by a very adorable train for me!

Got PND for the first time which didn't help. Now they're 6,
4 and 2. It's non-stop. And I'm a SAHM because of childcare costs etc.

But it's completely manageable. It's loud but fun and you get three cuddles instead of two grin

I wouldn't change one tiny little thing. Except maybe I'd get a cleaner!

steppemum Tue 29-Jan-13 22:00:32

mine are 10, 7 and 5, so dc1 started school as dc3 was born.

I found dc 3 just added to the crowd. It was 1 who was hard! And my worse sleeper was dc2, so 3 was fine and we just got on with it.

Love having 3. I find the dynamics of 3 much more interesting than 2. The 2 who squabble in my house are 1 and 2, so the third one didn't make any difference there

44SoStartingOver Tue 29-Jan-13 21:52:33

I had three in four years. I thought the early days were tiring.

The teens are very hard and expensive.

wigglesrock Tue 29-Jan-13 21:51:10

I found going from 1-2 much harder then going from 2-3. Although I'd a bigger age gap. The age gap between my dd1 and dd2 is 2 years and a few months. Dd2 is 3 years 4 months older than dd3. I was 37 when I had dd3.

I also found that the years have flown in with dd3, I think its because the older 2 were at school/nursery etc - my dd3 will be 2 in a few weeks and honestly its been the fastest two years.

3gorgeousgirlies Tue 29-Jan-13 21:50:46

I've got 3 girls and its crazy! They are 6,3,1. It's been crazy since my third was born, but lots of fun too. The girls adore each other. Go for it you won't regret your third.

minimuffin Tue 29-Jan-13 21:42:42

Other way round for me. 1 - 2 a breeze, 2 - 3 a big shock... Good luck!

SJisontheway Tue 29-Jan-13 20:49:01

1 - 2 was a big shock, but 2 - 3 was a breeze.

Spookey80 Tue 29-Jan-13 20:36:07

Interesting reading as just trying to decide whether to go for no 3,, I am now a bit scared...but I still want the madness of more than 2.. I think. Do I? And for them to each other, that must be then best bit.

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