My husband and I went from picking our daughter up within a few moments of her crying to trying what we thought was some so-called 'gentle' sleep training for 2 consecutive nights. This took the form of us sitting with our daughter and patting her, shhhhhing her and singing to her instead of picking her up when she cried. She cried intermittently but pretty hard when it happened. She seemed only to derive limited comfort from our interventions. Eventually she fell asleep, exhausted, both nights. After the second night we decided not to do it again as it didn't feel right for us.
Since then, we've noticed that she is reluctant to smile at my husband. this is a big change.
Our worry is that she has truly been shocked out of her belief that we would always be there for her in the way she expects/needs and that she has been harmed by it. Of course it is upsetting that she has changed her behaviour towards my husband but the real concern is for what it says about what she experienced.
I know this is a contentious issue. I would be grateful to hear from anyone who has experienced something similar and whether things got better with time or seemed to have changed forever.
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Feedthebirds · 20/01/2013 15:27
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