Worrying behaviour!

[lissyb]

Hi I am new to the forum but would really like some advice.

I have a son who is in year 6 at school, he is very open with me and will often tell me naughty things he and his friends get up to a school. There is a child in his class who does some very strange things, recently they have been child birth related things because his Mum was having a baby. Things like pretending his water have broke and that he is giving birth.

Yesterday my son came home and said that this boy had found a doll at school. Apparently he was simulating sex acts with this doll. My son didn't really understand what the boy had been doing but knew it was rude, he said he was licking the dolls lady bits, putting the dolls mouth to his groin and lying on top of the doll and jiggling around.

I am not happy that my son has seen this and felt disgusted when he was telling me. I tried very hard not to overeact. Does anyone else think this is not appropriate for a child of 10 / 11 to know about? I feel as if his behaviour needs reporting incase it stems from abuse. Am I right?

[Musomathsci]

Ugh, sounds horrid, and I wouldn't have been at all happy either. I think a quiet word with the form teacher is probably the best way forward - they will know more about his background and have mechanisms for following up.

[ArtsMumma]

I would speak to a teacher an tell them you are concerned this points to abuse. I think its your duty, them leave the teacher to deal with the issue as their duty dictates. This sounds horrible, it would really upset me!

[Bambi86]

As a teacher, the signals point to a possible child protection case. You must report this to the class teacher, and they will take it from there.

[Inclusionist]

Yes, this degree of sexualised behaviour is a bit of a worry. Tell the teacher, he or she will have had safeguarding training and will know to pass it on the the designated person.

[SilveryMoon]

Completely agree that you should report this to the class teacher. Sounds awful, and I too would worry about a child of that age displaying knowledge of those kinds of acts.

[Missingthemincepies]

I agree. Maybe phone the school and ask if you can have a word with the teacher after class, explaining its urgent.
He may just be allowed to watch inappropriate tv at home but still, much better to have it checked out.

[lissyb]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I just needed to sound other Mum's out about the issue and I didn't want to discuss it with any of my friends. I spoke to the Headmaster this morning and he is going to take it from here. I feel so relieved that I have said something.