Low mood & snappy mummy :-(

(18 Posts)
katykuns Tue 11-Dec-12 17:09:24

I have been going through phases of intense anger since getting pregnant with DD2 now 7mo. I have thrown things, shouted, and crumbled into a mass of frustration. This is totally unlike me. I am so so exhausted despite DD sleeping pretty well, although I do work long night shifts.
DP always gets the impact of my moods. It's only because he is here. He seems to never leave the house or do anything unless I am doing it with him, and that is frustrating in itself.

I can't really give an explanation to what you are going through, but I really think it might be depression. Your situation might be really good now, but perhaps you have just burnt yourself out? Maybe you need to work through any issues that have arisen since DD was born? x

Tanyaaah Tue 11-Dec-12 15:00:16

I feel the same, it's hard to get through the week. On friday night I cried because I felt like it was nearly monday morning again!
Lose patience with 2yr old dd and have a 6 month old too who I am now having to feed/clean/wipe food off 3 times a day as well as bf and trying to wean to the bottle.
It is really hard work and I feel I do nothing but moan about it, which makes me feel pathetic and guilty!
You are not alone!

mummy2benji Tue 11-Dec-12 14:11:37

Shit parent alert here too! (I don't think you are a shit parent at all - just to clarify!) I was trying to get eye drops into ds's eye (he turned 4 yesterday) as he has conjunctivitis and he was fighting me and yelling. How did I react? Shouted too and smacked him (tapped his leg really not a proper smack, but that doesn't make it much better). I don't usually smack, we use a naughty spot for discipline which works pretty well. I just lost control and reacted very badly in the situation. Just feeling fed up and frayed nerves also - dd is 7 weeks old tomorrow and coping with the two of them can drive me to the edge at times. At other times it is a huge blessing and I adore being their mummy.

I think being a mum is just bloody hard work at times. How you are feeling could be exacerbated by anaemia or a bit of PND so it is definitely worth seeing your GP, but it could also be that you are working hard looking after your children and just need a break. Can you get dp to have the children for a bit at the weekend maybe and go out and do something for yourself? Shop or get your hair done or just go to Starbucks with a magazine for a coffee and an hours respite. Might help. Sending you empathy x

Littleraysofsunshine Tue 11-Dec-12 13:14:31

Bad day again today!

Been stuck indoors waiting for the boiler repair... We had a lovely day at home yesterday but today has been STRESSFUL. confusedhmm

Horrible. Shouting. Tears.

I snapped at dd earlier after she was just hysterically screaming at crying at me. And just said STOP!!!!!!!!! Then her reply. No you stop mummy

I just felt I helpless. She was tired but wouldn't give in. Been cheeky all morning by not listening which then results me in losing My patience.

She's just really not herself lately. She is coming out of having a virus but I am completely feeling like crap. I hate shouting at her!!!

I try to speak with her. Cuddle but she gets so angry sometimes. Quite obviously she's getting it from me isn't she?

Shit parent alert

We cuddled and said sorry after both in tears.

Really sad day today (thumbs down)hmm

MarjorieAntrobus Sat 24-Nov-12 06:10:52

Poor you, OP. Don't be so hard on yourself. Also drink more and eat more (you mentioned those two things yourself) as that will help a lot. Buy some sensible snacks and nice drinks that you can have easily available.

You are probably exhausted. Flat out exhausted and run down. Possibly depressed.

Talk to HV and GP too.

superchick Sat 24-Nov-12 06:03:35

I remember feeling like this on and off all through dd's first year. Go to the GP and talk it through to see if you need blood tests. Also don't be so hard on yourself, you're doing a great job.

Littleraysofsunshine Fri 23-Nov-12 07:33:08

I was fine all week. Then once again it hits me like last night. I just snapped at dp for NO reason? I felt so knackered, went to bed at 10:30,, dd2 woke for another feed at 11:45. So I woke up grouchy. And an angry mood ( not towards her) just don't even know what towards? Just so tired. The. I start sayi g things I don't mean like the girls don't need a role mother like me. One minute I'm happy go lucky mum then next I'm a miserable cow?

I don't get why this keeps happening other than tiredness?

I am usually a calm, patient, happy mum. But just lately I don't feel myself? I feel so tired. My skin is majorly breaking out, no periods.

Dp is so understanding and says it could be my fluid intake too as I don't hardly drink any water (breast feeding) but seems like tiredness.

Last night I got to the point I got myself so wound up I couldn't sleep.. Then after a while and lots of tears I fell to sleep.

I feel like such a shit mum for feeling like this. I have everything I need and want. I am usually so content and happy jut feel lethargic and not myself. sadsadsadsadsadsadsadsadsad

OstrichSized Wed 21-Nov-12 10:46:30

It's hard, isn't it.
I felt myself pulling out of a similar slump when Dd2 turned 9 months. I started talking multivitamins again so don't know which was the factor, the vitamins or her just getting that bit more independent.

Like you, I'm breastfeeding and have no periods back yet.

I'm trying to keep a record of my bad days and Tuesdays seem to always be hard for me. And if I have a worse than usual nights sleep, I feel my patience slipping away.

My bad days are getting less and less so maybe it was the vitamin defiency.

Let us know how you get on.

jessebuni Tue 20-Nov-12 06:20:17

I feel exactly the same. I am also anaemic but I've been anaemic pretty much constantly since I was a teenager and had to have iron injections so I don't think it's that with me.

I have a 5 month old exclusively feeding and also had no bleed yet and I have a 3 year old son that keeps me on my toes and gates having a little sister that always seems to be attached to mummy feeding so he plays up for attention.

It's hard to say what it is or what can fix it but I think that perhaps on the bad days ask someone to help you out for even just 1 hour so you can have 1 hour private time. That's what the health visitor recommended to me. (Although I haven't been able to try it because my husband is always at work so I can't say whether it helps or not)

Littleraysofsunshine Mon 19-Nov-12 14:11:09

Not pregnant

Littleraysofsunshine Mon 19-Nov-12 07:52:00

It's so bizarre. We've been through so much. Dp is back home from being away for nearly a year not to mention we have two beautiful girls. Life is good for us. I just feel drained and tired and moody and then I get even more moody because sim allowing myself to feel like it. sad

I'll get a test today just to rule it out.

ohmeohmy Mon 19-Nov-12 07:34:01

Agree get tested, try to rest... You are not the only one... Ds suggested there should be an " angry mums app"

Littleraysofsunshine Mon 19-Nov-12 07:27:30

I did a test about 4 weeks ago = negative

Littleraysofsunshine Mon 19-Nov-12 07:26:57

I am always anaemic when pregnant and just after so maybe I still am?

Doubt I'm pregnant, I haven't had any bleed at all since having dd2. I'm exclusively feeding her too. I know it's not 100%.. Dp and I also use withdrawal method at the minute too! (Tmi!) sorry

Shaky Sun 18-Nov-12 22:09:51

I'm sorry you are feeling crap.

Any chance you could be pregnant again?
Xx

Go to the docs and ask for a blood test, I've been feeling like this and it turns out I'm anemic.

Littleraysofsunshine Sun 18-Nov-12 21:58:00

Mind is boggled I can't even sleep

Littleraysofsunshine Sun 18-Nov-12 21:18:23

Lately I'm finding myself to be very moody, and snappy. I keep snapping at dp and dd1.
Having hardly any patience and just teary. I have a 5month old dd too. Most days I feel great, just hormonal days like today where I feel rubbish, tired and just moody. I just snapped at do for moving a pillow??? I mean what is wrong with me.

I wouldn't say it's post natal depression. It's just sometimes a build up of me feeling tired, no energy, looking like a drained old lady ( I'm 23) and just have such a build up of complex emotions from my past year I think)

Dd1 can be testing (like any two year old) and I usually embrace it. But this weekend I felt no patience.

I haven't had a period since having dd2, could this be hormone imbalance. I also don't eat we'll enough. I just feel like an emotional moody bitch :-(

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