What would you have done ???

[nutcracker]

You are on the way to see a show at the theatre with your mum and 2 dd's age 8 and 6.

On the bus on the way there, your 6 yr old starts to play up, trying to move seats. You tell her she can't because the bus is busy. Anyway her behaviour continues and gets worse.
When you get off the bus she says she wants to take her coat off. You say no, but she does it anyway. You say , fine be cold then, but you have to carry the coat yourself.

As you are walking around town she starts throwing the coat backwards over her had narrowly missing people behind her. You ask her to stop and she doesn't, and flings the coat back again, nearly hitting a child in the face.

So what would you do next, assuming that the child will not be reasoned with ?

[nutcracker]

bump, sorry am feeling impatient.

[nutcracker]

The show was paid for and was her xmas pressie off grandma.

Basically, i took her coat off her, because i was worried she would hurt somneone, and whn i did my mom said "see, you gave in, she got her own way, cos you are carrying her coat"

I don't see what else I could do

[ladymuck]

Why is she acting up - excited? Has she eaten properly etc?

Don't have a 6 year old, but would usually use stick and carrot. Both girls get popocorn or whatever at theatre once they get there, but dd2 is on a 3 strikes and she goes home.

[nutcracker]

I wish I had taken her home mind you, as sh played up during the show too.

Anyway, yeah i was a bit stunned at my moms reaction, as I am trying so hard at the mo with regards dd2's behaviour and I really didn't see what else I could have done.

[hunkermunker]

Did you ask your mum what she'd have done? And muttered "well, just told her not to" doesn't cut it - she doesn't sound like she helped much, so why criticise you - gah!

[nutcracker]

Ladymuck, there are several threads elswhere about dd's behaviour problems at present.

Todays bad behaviour included ..... slapping me in the face, shouting in the theatre, running off in town and bashing the soap dispenser in the theatre toilets (although that on is a bit out of her control as she has OCD about handwashing/ germs and the dispensr was empty.)

[nutcracker]

I did ask my mom what I should have done and she said "well i don't know, but you gave in again".

The consequences of her actions by the way were that she didn't get a sticker on her chart. I know that sounds extremely lame but, the chart is a new stragtegy so refusing her a sticker for it, i think made her at least think about what she had done.

[CarolinaMoon]

how very helpful of your mum, NOT!

it sounds like you are doing a good job under very trying circs .

[tensing]

You have a mother like mine, what ever I do, I should have done it the other way

[nutcracker]

Usually she is great but we sem to be disagreing about this subject alot lately which is hard as I really need somone on my side at the mo as the whole thing is wearing me down so much.

[Freckle]

Perhaps you could point out to your mum that, if you'd done what you wanted to, it would have meant wasting two tickets which she (your mum) had already paid for. Would she have preferred that?

I hate it when people criticise what you are doing but have b*gger all as an alternative themselves.

[Tortington]

i have not read any other posts so iw ould have said 2 we are going home, we will not do this again until i feel you are ready to be sensible"

then i would have got back ion bus and been ture to my word - forfeiting tickets