I seem to have got myself onto a permanent treadmill of criticism with my eldest dd and it's doing my head in, so lord knows what it's doing to her. I can't seem to let anything go. Mainly I feel like she doesn't present herself very well - she walks along looking at the ground with her back bent, like an old lady - she speaks very slowly and dully so people don't listen to her -sounds harsh but I have seen it happen - and she dresses very scruffily and messily. Before I get shot down - I realise that these are not very important things in the scheme of things, and the fact that she is kind and funny and wise beyond her years is much more important. But we DO live in a world where presentation is important, and I don't want her to sell herself short. There's a kind of abject aspect to it all that disturbs me. She does drama, which she loves, and is oddly brilliant at, despite her bumblingness in everyday life, but it hasn't rubbed off on her in rl. I want to stop criticising/nagging her because I am sure it is just making her feel self-conscious and resentful - it would me - but I am finding it very difficult.
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