I wondered if anyone else is experiencing this. At the moment I am feeling anxious about my first child's reaction to our new baby. The birth is still 4 months off but I find I am dwelling on it and I feel guilty about my feelings for the 2nd baby. With the first I obviously spent time stroking my bump and really looking forward to meeting him. This time I seem to be looking at it negatively and worrying about potential problems. I feel I should have the same feelings for the 2nd baby (it is not his/her fault that he/she is 2nd in line!). I worry about leaving no 1 for the first time overnight and .. well all the usual things really.
My son is a bit possessive with me and I envisage all sorts of difficulites with the new baby and worry that it will spoil the bonding process, and also spoil my relationship with No 1. Maybe it is just the time of year (I do tend to feel a bit down with the the dark days) and I may feel better when the Spring comes.
From those who have 'been there' any tips on strategies that I should be putting into place before the birth to prepare my son would be useful. My son will be 2 3/4 by then.
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Eulalia · 27/11/2001 08:59
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