Until 10 days ago, my parents would babysit dd while I went to work. My dad has had a drink problem for some time now, as long as I can remember really, and he seemed to be getting over it after a stay in hospital. However after 2 wks of not drinking, he started again. Now I'm not just talking a few cans of lager, this is a litre of vodka in a day, and he works full time which doesn't leave much drinking time when he's drunk and passed out by 8pm most nights.
Anyway, he has never liked dh, and gets a bee in his bonnet about him whenever he's had a drink. It all came to a head a week past Friday though, and among alot of other things he said the unthinkable about dh: "I wish he would touch her (dd) so I can get him done". Now what kind of grandparent would wish for their granddaughter to be "touched"?
I went to work that night, but told my boss I wouldn't be back, collected dd the following morning (a messy affair that was too, but thats another story), and I have not spoken to any of my family since.
The dilemma facing me is, my mother works at the school attached to dd's nursery. She is passing messages thru dd's teacher and generally harrassing me to see her. Dd is not distressed about not seeing them even though she did spend alot of time with them. Do I allow my mother access and risk upsetting dd, or do I stick to my guns that there will be no contact until my father stops drinking completely?
ANY advice will be greatly appreciated!
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cherry · 22/05/2002 00:39
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