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Help! Relatives coming to stay...

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LiamsMum · 10/03/2002 11:37

My husband's father and step-mother are coming from overseas to stay with us in a few months' time. I don't know how long they plan to stay (not too long I hope), but last time they stayed with us for 6 weeks and I must admit it was too long. I hardly knew them so that didn't help, but all they wanted to do was sit around - they didn't want to drive anywhere, or even get on a bus or train or do any sight-seeing. It got quite tedious and I'm a bit nervous about how it will go this time... I'm now a stay-at-home mum and my son will be two years old when they get here (that's a handful in itself). I'm also studying so I will have to commit quite a bit of time to that. Basically I'm just not looking forward to the tension of having long-term guests in the house with everything else that I need to do. For my husband's sake I want to make an effort to be positive about it, but I'm dreading it a bit. I just needed to vent my apprehensions about this... any helpful advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

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meadow · 10/03/2002 15:42

Is your husband planning to take any time off work when they visit? If not, you must persuade him to do so and for as long as he can, otherwise you will probably end up tearing your hair out! Does his dad have friends/relatives over here to visit?

Get your husband to find out exactly how long they are staying, as you really don't want to burden yourself when you have a 2yo. Did you have to cook etc for them or were they quite helpful in that respect? At the end of the day, your husband shouldn't leave it all up to you. Maybe when they come to stay, you should leave out all your son's toys etc around the living room, so they will realise that they can just sit around the house!

Hope this info helps.

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maryz · 10/03/2002 20:00

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Pupuce · 10/03/2002 21:47

How does your husband feel about this ? Does he share your apprehension ? What is his view of his dad ?
I have a similar problem, my dad wants to stay for days (not 6 weeks !) and he is basically a nightmare to have around (he is VERY depressed).... fortunately DH and I feel the same way and when we "invite" him, I take time-off work so that DH (who was a SAHD) doesn't have him on his "back" for the whole day.

I do sympathise but I feel your husband must be on your side and take the bulk of the responsibility - as I do with my dad.

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