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Scared of dying

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mostlyconfused · 07/10/2013 23:46

This might seem a bit nuts, but is anyone else scared of dying now they have kids? I'm not even ill or anything. I can't bear the thought of them growing up without me. Of the hurt they would feel. I think of my daughter crying for me and me not being there to comfort her. I can't watch any films were the mum dies without completely breaking down. My husband is wonderful but I don't know how he would cope.

Does anyone have thoughts like these?
I don't think about it a lot but when I do, it breaks my heart.

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Nigglenaggle · 08/10/2013 12:31

This is what no-one ever tells you. Become a parent and commit yourself to a lifetime of worries like these!! I think it's normal xx

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mamaandchild · 03/11/2013 17:51

It only makes me think I wish I started having kids younger so I could be there for grand kids etc.

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NorthernLurker · 03/11/2013 17:55

I try not to think about it because it scares me like nothing else could. They need me. I remember a friend saying (after we'd heard about a friend of another friend dying and leaving young dc) 'my dc adore but they depend on me'

Just try and avoid those films OP.

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MrPricklepants · 03/11/2013 17:58

It's perfectly normal I think every mother (every parent) fears this. It hit me after my DS was born, up until that point I hadn't even remotely considered my own mortality.

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hellymelly · 03/11/2013 17:59

Oh Gawd I worry about this all the time. Not at all helped by being an older mother (I've had both mine in my 40s). It is my biggest fear, strangely I rarely worry about my children dying, ( perhaps it is so terrible a thought that I can't even entertain it?) My friend was chatting about a freind of hers who has died suddenly at 45, and I felt sick with fright, I had to change the subject.

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