after abortion

[sammyjayneex]

Hello, im sorry if i have posted this in the wrong place as i am new to mumsnet and im trying to get to know the site.

I had an abortion 4 weeks ago, i was 5 weeks pregnant....i feel bad and guilty but it was the choice for me and my family, its not the right thing to do but i had to do it...in any other circumstance i wouldnt have done it.

But after the abortion i am still spotting, it just seems im not getting over it and its a constant reminder of what i did, maybe thats what i deserve?

its mostly only when i wipe....like redish discharge?


is this normal?

[sammyjayneex]

i will add it was a medical abortion.

[MamaPingu]

I don't know the answer to your question, but I just wanted to say don't beat yourself up too much.

That fact you feel guilty and that you had no other realistic options shows you honestly care. I've never had an abortion myself but know people who have for no real reason and don't seem to be phased by their actions.

Hope you are ok x

[magicstars]

Hi Sammy. I had an abortion 9months ago. The guilt was horrendous at first but it has gotten easier, I have learnt to live with the fact that the decision is permanent and still feel it was the right thing for us a family.
I read on here that writing a letter to the potential child is advised. I have done this in my head a million times and have found it therapeutic.
Do you ever plan to have (more?) dcs? I don't know your spiritual/ personal beliefs but hoping that the potential dc I aborted may be born at another time, comforts me.
Holding your hand, you may feel very alone in this decision, but many others have done the same thing for reasons that we feel are ultimately for the best.

[magicstars]

Yes I think bleeding for a few weeks is normal, it's just large clots you need to be wary of. Best to get medical advice though.