my day in court today, srewed over compleatly

(7 Posts)
nwcs Thu 24-Jan-13 22:44:44

hi im new here, just had the day from hell,
ive has custerdy of my 2 children for 6 years, j was 4 and l was 3 when i got custerdy though the courts buy was of cafcas s7 report in my favor,
since then ex has tryed and faiuld 2 time to get residence back, ive been a great perant giving the children what they need and kids very happy and school happy with them,
well ex tryed again to get custerdy, cafcas was asked to do a report witch they did, september 2012 we went to court for fine out outcome of s7 report,
report said children should stay with me and no shared custerdy or custerdy she be given, it did say that children have ask to see ex more, witch i agreed with, well ex desided to take to to final hering witch was today to fight it, im working so not entitaled to legal aid, ex working living with now partner that works but reduced hours and didnt declaire living with new partner so was able to get legal aid, was told to file report to the court witch i did but cafcas officer said keep it to the point, dont write to much and dont be to damming on ex as my s7 report says what it needs to so the court will listen to my report, and she said i will have nothink to worry about,
well i went to see a solisitor about getting repisenation for today and they wanted 800.00 for just today with i thought was too much to pay as cafcas report was in my favor and cascaf said court wouldnt change things.
well walked into court reprsenting myself, ex sat there with solisitor and a top barrister paid for by legal aid,
well judge ask why i wasnt represented,and i exsplayed that 800,00 was too much for me to pay and as cafcas report stated things should stay the same he looked at me and said well thats a poor jugement on your part.....
juge then said i read all statements and ive not going to go though them all today as i feel this could be sorted out between partys,so go out the court and come back in an hour, we did that and we sored new contact out to suit ex s new working hours, alternite weekend contact and 2 nights though the week on other week, so 5 nights contact every 2 weeks, 10 nights every 28 nights, i wasnt happy letting ex having midweek comtact as felt kids should be in a rutine school night but was backed into a corner to agree, but ex realied they wasnt going to get residence order so was pushing shired residence, her barrister managed to minipulate cascaf offices into changing her mind on share care , we went back into courtand her barrister told court cafcas agreed to share resedence now, even though she had put in her report that she didnt agree to share care. well juge wouldnt let me go though ex statment , all we could do is cross exsamine cafcas officer witch i did, i said shes changed her mind on her report she wrote and that wasnt fair and that she had told me not to put much in my report as hers covered every thing in my favor, i made it clear that if ther was any issued with the s7 report then i would of paid for representation. judge ruled that share resendce is the best think to do as cafcas officer was NOW recomeneding it, [all because she was mimipulated by a top barrister].....surley this cannot be dont, i have 28 days to appieal, any advices would be much appricated.

Seabright Thu 24-Jan-13 22:52:51

I think you would be better off re-posting in the "Legal" section, rather than in the "Bloggers" section.

Also, and please don't take offence, but if you add paragraphs and run the post thought a spell checker first, it will be easier to read. And the easier it is to read, the more replies you'll get.

nwcs Sat 26-Jan-13 16:05:07

my problem is what this shared custerdy means.......
me and my ex dont get on at all. ive tryed but she lies and i can have a conversation with her and then she sent solisitor letter saying im harrasing her so that when where in court she can say well he was harrasing me to the point i had to get solisitor to sent a letter for him to stop. when no prove has been show and i wasnt harrasing her at all so i said from then on lets use text to commuicate, then in court she said hes been difficult as he wont talk to me he just says sent email or text, so again i cant win as i still look bad in court eye, he she made up so many lies over the years, she also when drunk said on a bus full of ppl that our doughter who has nappy rash when she was younger as because i was doing stuff to her that i shouldnt be..........THATS THE KIND OF PERSON SHE IS AND THATS WHY I CANT TRUST HER AND SHE WILL SAY AND DO ANY THINK THAT SUITES HER.
and yet a gudge granted her share custerdy of to lovely children that ive brought up on my own.

katese11 Sat 26-Jan-13 19:35:45

Again sorry, but this might be better in a different section....I'd hate for you not to get the advice you need from MNetters

jamie47 Mon 28-Jan-13 19:47:23

are you worried that shared care means 50 /50 as thats not the case .

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Mon 28-Jan-13 19:59:42

hi im new here, just had the day from hell.

ive has custerdy of my 2 children for 6 years, j was 4 and l was 3 when i got custerdy though the courts buy was of cafcas s7 report in my favor.

since then ex has tryed and faiuld 2 time to get residence back, ive been a great perant giving the children what they need and kids very happy and school happy with them. Well ex tryed again to get custerdy, cafcas was asked to do a report witch they did, september 2012 we went to court for fine out outcome of s7 report,

report said children should stay with me and no shared custerdy or custerdy she be given, it did say that children have ask to see ex more, witch i agreed with. well ex desided to take to to final hering witch was today to fight it, im working so not entitaled to legal aid. Ex working, living with now partner that works, but reduced hours, and didnt declaire living with new partner so was able to get legal aid. Was told to file report to the court witch i did but cafcas officer said keep it to the point, dont write to much and dont be to damming on ex as my s7 report says what it needs to so the court will listen to my report, and she said i will have nothink to worry about,

well i went to see a solisitor about getting repisenation for today and they wanted 800.00 for just today, with i thought was too much to pay as cafcas report was in my favor and cascaf said court wouldnt change things.

well walked into court reprsenting myself, ex sat there with solisitor and a top barrister paid for by legal aid, well judge ask why i wasnt represented,and i exsplayed that 800,00 was too much for me to pay and as cafcas report stated things should stay the same he looked at me and said well thats a poor jugement on your part.....

juge then said i read all statements and ive not going to go though them all today as i feel this could be sorted out between partys,so go out the court and come back in an hour. We did that and we sored new contact out to suit ex s new working hours. Alternite weekend contact and 2 nights though the week on other week, so 5 nights contact every 2 weeks, 10 nights every 28 nights.

i wasnt happy letting ex having midweek comtact as felt kids should be in a rutine school night but was backed into a corner to agree. Ex realied they wasnt going to get residence order so was pushing shired residence, her barrister managed to minipulate cascaf offices into changing her mind on share care.

We went back into court and her barrister told court cafcas agreed to share resedence now, even though she had put in her report that she didnt agree to share care. well juge wouldnt let me go though ex statment , all we could do is cross exsamine cafcas officer witch i did, i said shes changed her mind on her report she wrote and that wasnt fair and that she had told me not to put much in my report as hers covered every thing in my favor.

i made it clear that if ther was any issued with the s7 report then i would of paid for representation. judge ruled that share resendce is the best think to do as cafcas officer was NOW recomeneding it, [all because she was mimipulated by a top barrister].....surley this cannot be dont, i have 28 days to appieal, any advices would be much appricated.
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my problem is what this shared custerdy means.......
me and my ex dont get on at all. ive tryed but she lies and i can have a conversation with her.Then she sent solisitor letter saying im harrasing her so that when where in court she can say well he was harrasing me to the point i had to get solisitor to sent a letter for him to stop.

when no prove has been show and i wasnt harrasing her at all so i said from then on lets use text to commuicate, then in court she said hes been difficult as he wont talk to me he just says sent email or text, so again i cant win as i still look bad in court eye, he she made up so many lies over the years, she also when drunk said on a bus full of ppl that our doughter who has nappy rash when she was younger as because i was doing stuff to her that i shouldnt be..........THATS THE KIND OF PERSON SHE IS AND THATS WHY I CANT TRUST HER AND SHE WILL SAY AND DO ANY THINK THAT SUITES HER.
and yet a gudge granted her share custerdy of to lovely children that ive brought up on my own.

MyPreciousRing Sat 16-Feb-13 02:25:55

Did you re-post this in relationships or chat OP? More traffic there and more advice available.

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