I just need to off-load myself - has anyone has as bad a Christmas and New Year as myself.
I have posted a message under Health under "Helping my Mum".
My mum is having a nervous breakdown - this started just before Christmas.
I have three children - new baby of 8 weeks and am due back to work shortly. My mum has always looked after my children for me and said she would look after the new baby. Even now she says she will be fine to look after them, but she is not and I have told her that even though she says she will be fine I need to see it for myself and am not seeing it at the moment.
My elder daughter and son can go to Breakfast Club before school and nursery and my daughter can also go to the after school club.
I only work two days a week so at least I will be with them three working days a week.
I have booked my new born into a private nursery which looks lovely but none of my babies have ever gone to a nursery before, although I am sure she will be fine.
Christmas Day, I had my nan and aunt in tears most of the day about my mum (we all spent Christmas at my mum's house) - my mum, nan, aunt, brother, my husband, me and my three children.
New Years Eve - my husband decided he wants us to split up (I have also posted under Relationships - Should I stay or should I go?) It now seems I have to go.
I spent all of New Years Day in tears and most of last week also. I had so many friends phoning to see how Christmas was and to wish me a Happy New Year. I couldn't just make out everything was fine and kept ending up crying on the phone to them.
Sunday night, I seemed to have cried myself dry and was able to talk to my husband. We have both decided we do want to be together, and are willing to go to Relate. We have a long way to go but I hope we will get there.
Before my mum became poorly, I booked my new born baby's Christening.
My mum has a large 5 bedroomed house and when I booked the christening she said she would:-
- pay for the caterers to come in and do the food.
- pay for the dress.
- pay for the cake.
- buy the wine and beer.
- hold the party at her house.
Because of how she now is, I am having to do the food myself (with the help of about 5 friends), pay for the dress (bargain I found on the Internet), order the cake from Sainsburys and pay for it, my husband is going to France to buy the wine and beer and we are now holding the party at our 3 bedroomed house. I have invited 49 adults and 29 children and how they are all going to fit in, I have no idea.
When I had my son christened, it was Summer and I ordered a bouncy castle for the garden for the children.
Because this christening is at the end of this month, I can't order a bouncy castle for the garden as it will be so cold.
If we were holding the party at my mums, it wouldn't be so much of a problem because she has got the room and I don't want to cancel the christening until the summer as the dress may no longer fit, and all the invites, etc. have gone out.
If I had to deal with any one of the four:-
- my mum being poorly
- my husband deciding he wants to split up
- havingto try and find child care
- organising a christening
it wouldn't be a problem, but it seems that everything seems to go wrong at once.
I am sure none of you have had as bad a Christmas and New Year as me, but it felt good to put this all down.
Thanks for listening.
Jacqui