Hi Everyone
I have for the first time had a chance to sit down and post some messages - I've been reading mumsnet for ages and storing up my problems!!
I started off on another thread but decided this needed its own message. I want to know if I am just been mean and expecting too much from my family. My parents are divorced, my brother lives nearby and my sister is living away. (Neither of them have children yet.) I am the first one to have children and I have three (4,2 and 9 months)and I am a full time mum.
None of my family have ever offered to look after any of the children. I have asked on occasion but they can only manage one at a time - usually my eldest and also I wish I didn't have to ask them - it makes me feel like they are then doing it against their will.
They were all quite good when my daughter was ill and in hospital for a long time but apart from that they don't do much at all.
My grandparents used to take me out places even though they lived far away. Friends of mine leave their children for odd nights with family so that they can go out or whatever.
They can see me struggling and I have said that I find it hard not getting a break so I am surprised that they don't offer help. Also shouldn't they want to see the children just for their own enjoyment? So that's my version of it! From their point of view (this is me guessing) - they all work full time and have their own lives and I think they feel that they do see the children enough.
I really just want someone to say - come on - you look like you could do with a break - why don't I take the children to the park for a couple of hours.
Am I living in cloud cuckoo land and being ungrateful or do you think its a problem that should be tackled?
Any ideas very gratefully received. Thankyou...
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Am I expecting too much from my parents?
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keziah · 04/01/2002 14:15
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