Why can't I pass my driving test?

(58 Posts)
dontcallmehon Tue 03-Apr-12 13:50:57

Failed my third driving test today. Am putting a brave face on it, but I feel a bit fed up, particularly when dh seems to think it is a big joke (he passed his third test). I am starting to lose faith and think that I may never do it. It is also costing a fortune!

First test went really well with only a few minors, up until the point near the end of the test when I pulled in, went to straighten up and hit the kerb sad

Second test, got quite a lot of faults really. 12 minor (all for different things) and 2 serious - 1 for making a car slow down when I changed lanes and for not seeing a car which had to wait when I was doing a three point turn.

Third test, had hynotherapy to help with my nerves on the day. Don't know if helped really, I was still horribly nervous. Got 8 faults in total, two serious - again for changing lanes and one for being in the wrong lane. I had changed to a different test centre to get an earlier test date and I really didn't know the routes very well. No excuse, I know - I should have been better guided by the road markings.

Just feel so rubbish - got test number 4 booked at the test centre I'm most familiar with, but I'm really starting to wonder if I'll ever do it. My instructor thinks I'm a good driver and I don't seem to make those mistakes on my lessons, but the thought of the test makes me feel sick. Ironically, I think it's actually getting harder the more attempts I take, as there is more internal pressure to pass - as I don't want to have yet another failure!

Please give me hope that it will happen one day sad I didn't tell anyone apart from dh about this test, which is good in one way, but I neeed sympathy sad

WeAllHaveWings Sun 29-Jun-14 20:10:16

I passed on my 3rd go (in 1988 when tests were much easier than they are now!). Tests 1 and 2 were horrendous.

Test 3 I nearly never went to after a friend had died in a car accident the previous week and I was still too shaken by it.

A friend convinced me that since I'd paid for it I might as well go just as a practice for my next test, so I went and just went through the motions assuming I'd fail, couldn't believe it when they said I'd passed. I firmly believe I only passed 3rd time because I didn't care so wasn't nervous.

If your driving instruction thinks you are ready its likely to be your nerves holding you back. Good luck next time!

magpiegin Sun 29-Jun-14 19:40:00

I passed 6th time. I could drive fine but always got a major in the test. Just stick with it and you'll get there.

jullmc Tue 24-Jun-14 13:45:47

The most important tips that will help you pass the test the first time is simple: practice and remain calm. Of course you know that you need to practice. Practicing with a trained experienced instructor is best but you should also practice the maneuvers that you have trouble with on your own. I hire instructor at education4drivers.com special for training ia parallel parking

Ummhudhayfa Sun 01-Jun-14 13:51:51

Failed my test third time yesterday . Actually started crying in front of emaniner ! One minor and one serious fault . Always the same issue stopping too closely behind large vehicles . I hope that's drummed Into my head now after nearly 600 pounds just on driving tests ! Next one booked already . This time am not ganna tell my daughter or my husband . Hope that helps !

leavesalmondoutofit Thu 14-Nov-13 23:52:40

Iam/was a nurse. Passed at the fifth attempt. I was so nervous. been driving for many years now.

Advice. Drive at every opportunity not just lessons. I think that helps with your decision making and that means you have a bit more confidence. I did not drive on my own before I had a licence I most certainly did not :0

EmeraldEyes19 Thu 14-Nov-13 23:45:52

I know exactly how you feel sad I failed my fifth test today and haven't stopped crying in hours, as soon as I calm down I get all worked up again sad I'm nineteen and have only got seven months left before my theory certificate runs out so the stress is on right now! All my friends have passed already so I feel like a loser sad completely understand what you mean about the examiner making everything feel scary, I've taken five tests and every one has been a nasty person towards me, I feel like I'm never going to pass sad but I really hope you pass soon!! God bless you smile thanks

kayalz Wed 21-Aug-13 15:46:56

I failed by 5th test yesterday, 1 minor for a mirror check and one major for speeding. I was on the A120 going 70mph when I came to 50mph sign. I came off the accelerator and began to break aware of the car behind me. When I got back to the test centre I thought that I might of finally passed but the examiner said I failed because I did over 50mph passing the sign. My dad and brother both said they would of done the same thing, but I really have started to give up hope now. I have had hypnosis for my nerves which were the reason for 3 of my other failures, as my legs and arms shock and I could not get the car into gear. Hypnosis has sorted this problem out. I feel like I'm paying £62 plus the extra to the driving instructor just to be told I am a failure sad I have my own car and drive everyone everywhere so I can practice. At the moment I feel like I am never going to achieve my goal and luck is never on my side. I have had some really horrible examiners which have not helped with my nerves. The examiner yesterday got angry because I was using the toilet when he called my name and also after an emergency stop, something from the back seat came under the pedals so I politely asked to pull over to sort it out and he tutted at me. I am getting really depressed over my driving because I commute to university and I would also like to change my job but I need to drive to get there! All my friends have passed first or second time, it is just me now that is having trouble!

pickledthing Sun 07-Jul-13 23:18:01

I passed on my 5th attempt last year!!! I too was extremely nervous, on the 5th test ,mydriving instructor also wouldn't go out with me on test,I made my partner go with me and sit in back,for two weeks before test I started taking Bach flower rescue remedy drop, on the day I had my 8 drops before I went, and 8 drops at test centre, plus I had the Bach flower rescue remedy gum sweets in my lap, and when we stop briefly would put one in mouth to suck!!! Also had a 9.00am test,so I didn't have to think about test to much in morn!!!!!! As found the long waits before hand really made me nervous!

chateauferret Sun 07-Jul-13 22:57:43

Are you taking the test in a manual car and if so do you need to? I couldn't pass for toffee in a manual and needed a licence, as soon as I took it in an automatic car after a few conversion lessons it was like night and day. Still failed once more but that was just because a Citylink 'bus cut me up on the A8. But the examiner seemed to imply that they'd pass me the next time if I didn't do anything stupid, it was actually a better drive than when I did pass.

Materfacit Wed 03-Jul-13 12:39:05

I've been checking the DSA site everyday and got a new test date for next Tuesday, two weeks early. It's at the first centre again but couldn't turn down the opportunity.

daisydee43 Mon 01-Jul-13 19:02:14

Failed my test today for first time returning to the test centre shock don't feel to bad as its my first time but that sucks really - how's everyone else going?

Materfacit Thu 27-Jun-13 13:38:19

So glad I found this thread, I failed my second test yesterday and took it hard. I have never failed anything before, always been a success, driving perfectly bloody competently in every lesson but nerves getting the better of me on the test. I have changed the location of my third test to a quieter and less complicated town so I will hopefully improve my chances of passing. At my first test centre they don't let you into the car park until five minutes before your test, so you sit in a line outside, staring at the centre, and then you have three minutes to reverse park en masse with the others waiting. At this second centre you park on the road at your leisure and can have a walk around etc.

Three weeks until test three, i really have to pass soon as the pressure is on, I need the car from October which isn't helping the nerves at all.

Mattsmum95 Thu 20-Jun-13 20:57:51

I've just failed my driving test for the third time I feel more I've let my instructor down she's lovely she said she can't teach me no more as I can drive and she is encouraging me to do it again but as I waited in between instructors I've had to book my theory again as its ran out I'm fuming because I had 2 minors one when the examiner asked me to turn right and I went left and the 2nd leaving my handbrake on and at the very end on the way back I was going into the righthand lane and there were 2 sets of lights on red and for some stupid reason I went to go to the 2nd set and he had to put his brake on the first set was a crossing I am so disappointed in myself especially when my instructor seen the examiner later and he said it was a near perfect test and he was gutted for me ... You should have passed me then smile)

Charlotte1979ask Tue 18-Jun-13 22:22:49

I failed mine today, was doing so well then right at the end he asked me pull up, me like a divvy only went and pulled up on zig zags, I had gone all thru the test with 2 minor faults then on the way back the test center I go and pull up on zig zag flipping lines, I was so angry with myself, I thought that's it I am NOT doing it again, but seems my instructer has other ideas, he just texed me telling me he's re booked my test for 8th August pay him when i get paid, argh.. now I have no choice but to take it, I hate the feeling it gives you knowing I was so close to passing then I messed up, I think I wud rather fail with loads of faults at least that way I wudnt feel so bad, I have cried since I finished at dinner time, and to top it all my daughter who's 8 broke her heart when I told her, I felt even more bad then, so now I no how u all feel, I guess we all go through it when it comes to driving, So i shud buck up and stay strong.. Good luck to you all taking and re-taking you tests, We will get there eventually..... I HOPE LOL...

daisydee43 Tue 11-Jun-13 20:22:22

Hi I know how you feel. My test is booked in 3 weeks and have done few mock tests and every time I fail on serious for lane discipline. My lesson tonight I actually said I'm going home now but my driving instructor calmed me down and I parked a while from my house and walked back. Feel like shit too. I desperately need to drive for dd1 as we are not in a main town.

Here's how I see it- I was in a bad mood to start as had argument with dh, I speed everywhere so don't give myself enough time to change lanes, I'm so focused on the road that I can't seem to focus on lanes as well especially since the lanes are on those monster roundabouts

Solution - I'm going to take a map of my area and draw out what lane I should be in when at big roundabouts and dual carriageway junctions - feel I need to go in there with a bit of theory behind me, don't give up!!!

WhyMeWhyNot Tue 11-Jun-13 11:53:39

Don't tell a single person when your test is, then if it goes pear-shaped you have no one to confess a failure too. Takes all the pressure off.

I used a couple of drops of Rescue Remedy in the ladies while I was waiting to be called, that works for me.

Good luck

DrCoconut Tue 11-Jun-13 11:35:59

I'm glad I'm not alone. I have the dubious honour of being the only person in my family to fail a driving test. Grandparents and mum passed first time (dad never had a car or licence) and people generally found it hard to understand why "someone like you" would fail. I suppose I did well in exams etc at school and they just aren't used to me not succeeding and nor am I. I had to give up for emotional and financial reasons as it was draining me. One day I would love to do it as it is holding me back a bit job wise now. Test 4 here I come one day

MissMogwi Sun 09-Jun-13 09:01:00

I've failed mine three times now. With one serious fault and just a few minors every time. On my lessons I am a good confident driver, but I go to pieces on the test. My left leg shakes, I sweat and my heart pounds away before I've even started the car.

My nerves on the test are shocking, I've tried Kalms, Rescue Remedy, the lot. I'm fed up with it now, it's frustrating because I know I can drive but my nerves are ruining it for me!

I am very independent, and I do everything I set out to do. But this one thing is evading me and I'm at a loss as to what to do next.

Considering a days crash course with a test. I have a week between lessons now and no other access to a car so possibly intense driving then the test might help. I just don't know!

Rockdown Sat 08-Jun-13 10:52:13

I passed my driving test at the 9th of asking on the 6th June 2013. Since November 2012 I have had 5 tests! The moral of the story is, don't give up eventually you will PASS. If I can do it, so can you.

monkeymouse1 Fri 07-Jun-13 15:50:14

I just failed my fourth test sad First on the Isle of Wight where I am living now but fourth in total. Two majors and four minors - which is exactly what I got on my third which I did 3.5 yrs ago. Decided to try again when I got preg - am now 7 months and retaking in a few weeks. It's soul destroying!! I feel so stupid to have to do it a fifth time. Gah!

lulu6867 Sun 26-May-13 23:30:01

Can I just ask if any of the posters who have taken many tests before passing have any issues with dyslexia, my daughter is severely dyslexic and has failed 5 tests and we have been told that she needs to have a special needs driving tests as it has something to do with left and right and too many instructions all at once. Has anyone else herd this?

4th time lucky, today was a success! Even though I stalled, and had to adjust my seat mid-way.

Test Number 4 for me is booked this afternoon...

Mazerano79 Wed 01-May-13 00:40:03

I feel so much better after reading these posts, this one especially! I've just failed test number 7 today and like you have tried everything except for hypnotherapy so I think this could be one the cards smile I have my own car and drive fine in it and on lessons but just fall to pieces in the test. My nerves have even made me physically sick sad I thought I was alone here as everyone I know seems to be able to do it. I'm determined not to give up but getting really disheartened by my continued fails. Definitely going to try hypnotherapy

tyoo Thu 25-Apr-13 13:45:38

I'm struggle to pass my driving test, i have ready done 4th times, still cannt get it, i know many people take a few times to pass, i just wonder how many time i need to go to pass, i fed up with that, i do very well at the lesson,just cannt pass, it really cost me so much, when will be the end? i can not do the driving test for rest of my life, when my luky day will come?

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