LittleB please ignore the bickering. It is nothing to do with you

Take care of yourself, health is so important- one child, ten or none! Good luck

Hope the treatment goes well. Good luck!

Thanks for the advice - I'm trying to ignore some of the bickering I've attracted to this thread. Having decided that we'll go for it I've just received a letter saying that my latest smear shows severe diskalyosis (SP?),I had a smear showing mild diskalyosis earlier in the year, then biopsies which they hoped would sort it out, then another colposcopy a couple of weeks ago when it all appeared alot better, they did the smear to check and it now seems its much worse . I'm pretty upset, I have to wait a couple of weeks until they meet to decide what to do, then wait for appointment for treatment, wait to heal, and then hopefully we might be able to try for a baby next year, its a worrying time for us though.

I'm absolutely thrilled with my choice Starwhores but thanks for enquiring anyway.

You see, my DS has very close cousins extemely close to him in age living just up the road. He (like your children) goes to the same school as them, fights with them, negotiates with them, plays with them, cuddles them, laughs with them, thoroughly enjoys their company at all times and loves them dearly, as they do him. Just like your DCs they are all confident, well-balanced, beautiful and extremely happy children.

My DS spends absolutely oodles of time with his cousins but is also equally happy when they go home and he gets to have his own time and space and to do exactly what he wants to do. His cousins are also happy to have their own time amd space away from one another and relish time alone with their mum.

I love my neice and nephew to bits too but I'm also glad that whilst we're lucky enough tobe able to spend as much time as we like together with them, I don't have to do all their washing and ironing, oversee their homework, cook and shop for them, clear up their mess, pay to feed and clothe them, pay for all their extra bits and bobs (school trips, meals, activities, pocket money etc), pay for them to go on holidays, foot the bill for childcare/activites during school holidays, and look after them when they're ill.

I've absolutely no doubt that my DS and his cousins will remain very close throughout their lives as they've always been brought up so closely together.

Having just one child in my opinion gives you all you need to be able to say that i teh parenting stakes you've been there, done that and got the T-shirt.

I think both my DS and I have got absolutely the best of both worlds, it works perfectly for us and we have a great life. That's why I'm extremely happy with my choices thanks.

It's a total mystery to me why people like you seem to think that people like me should be secretly regretting our choices. Perhaps you'd like to enlighten us?

I wouldn't like to have four children personally, but I respect that everyone's different and that there will be people out there who do. Where do people like you get off on having a go at people who make choices that you wouldn't want to make or that you don't agree with? I respect your choice to have 4, so why can't you respect mine to have one?

I think you're the one with the large chip on the old shoulder, not me.

starwhores you doth protest far too much lol, who are you trying to convince?

From Starwhores - "I always think it's guilt that provokes such an attack, sure you made the right choice?"

Err, do you not realise that anyone who was so inclined could ask the very same thing of you? That's exactly why I think it's so rude/pointless/arrogant/complacent to attack other people's choices.

2nd best thing I have ever done. (1st best was having children in the first place!)
I can't believe how much my siblings get from each other - things that I can't give to them because I am not their age. Also, it is more work, but also in some ways less because they amuse each other quite a lot. (Although that bit doesn't happen until dc2 is a bit beyond toddlerdom)

Adryath..... I always think it's guilt that provokes such an attack, sure you made the right choice? Oh and I have four balanced, beautiful and very happy children that fight, negociate, cuddle, laugh and enjoy eachother.

[hides thread, this board is vicious]

not really lovechoc I didn't mean if you have 1 you'll forever regret only having 1.

I meant if you're deliberating over having a 2nd you're more likely to regret not having one than having one.

Totally not talking about people who choose to have 1, have 1, are happy to stick at 1 and are not broody for more.

OP says her and her partner are both broody for another and their dd also asks. What's the problem with that?