Yes, its perfectly OK.

When DD was about 6 and a classmate's mum was expecting, I did discuss with her whether she would have liked a brother or sister. (not that it was going to happen even if we'd wanted it!) She came to the conclusion that it was best to be an only, so long as she had a dog as a 'brother'.

Hi there..i'm late coming to this thread too but glad I found it.

I have one ds, 6..and he is the joy and light of mine and dh's life. We are just so complete as a threesome. I did have a slight worry when all of my baby mum-friends were on to their second or third but it really has never felt right for us.

Thankfully people have stopped asking us about 'number 2', which I have always found intrusive. But my usual answer is 'well, I was told when I was 31 I'd never have my own children and now I've got the perfect one so why tempt fate?' ..that usually stops them in their tracks.

I admit though, I do get a bit of a when all of ds's classmates start having siblings..(2 this week!).. but he is not bothered and he is a busy, happy and very very social boy. I am just so blessed, I sort of feel like I've been given the cream, why would I want the cake?

I suppose if you just make sure that your child socialises as much as possible, you won't have any issues. I've met so many well rounded and social people who are only children, and on many occasions, have realised that they are actually more social then others, possibly because they have had to learn how to interact with strangers a little quicker than other people.

This was a useful thread for me to read - thanks everyone.

DD is 4 and pregnancy/birth/aftermath were all very difficult/complicated/plagued by problems.

We are very happy with 'just' her, but I do feel a constant vague pressure to have another - which just isn't going to happen.

I'm pleased to 'meet' others in a similar boat.

I have one He is 15 now and is very sociable happy etc etc.He has lots of freinds and we have always had a houseful tbh which is a nightmare when they are 6 but fun now! It is up to you I have found it has worked for us although I really wanted another it wasn't to be.It is easy in terms of childcare and holidays etc.

Hi there, i have just been reading all the entries here as i have an only child the most wonderful 6 year old girl who i love to bits. She has many friends is very sociable and loving and she is happy. I have the same problem as the rest of you in that people always assume if you have one you will have another. I had the most traumatic pregnancy and childbirth and vowed i would never go through it again. I am a non working mother so i spend many evenings after school doing arts and crafts with my daughter and 2 or 3 evenings a week she will have a play date and she is always busy, she is never bored!!!! some of her friends with 2 or 3 siblings are always saying they are bored as they have nothing in common and their mum is always too busy so yes one child is fine just like 2, 3 or 10, IT IS UP TO YOU!!!!! it is nobody else's business, I think many people have the same problem my sister in law has been married for 3 years and they don't want children at all which is also fine and people never leave them alone asking when are you going to start a family? so you can't win either way you just have to do what is right for you. I thought i would just add that i am the youngest of 3 and most people assume i am an only child and i never got on with my sister or brother and i barely see them now.

hear hear to myredcardigan - be selfish do what is right for you and DH. Don't have another for your DD - she might not thank you, and by the sounds of it you and DH won't thank each other!

I've come very late to this thread but agree absolutely with what Myredcardigan and others have said. It's never a good idea, in my view, to have another baby if the only reason is what you think (after all, you can't yet know) your existing child may want in the future. You have to give thought to what's good for you, your partner and your relationship too.

<<Whispers a discreet invitation to the tea room>>

Thanks for all your messages. It has made me feel much better. In particular, MyRedCardigan's comments about it being my decision and not just for DD. That really rang true. DH and I are always saying to each other "maybe we should have another, just for DD", knowing it could put huge pressure on our relationship.
But you're all right. It's seen as "the done thing" if you have one, to have 2, and I think we're feeling pressured to conform to what other people expect, rather than what we want.