... ds is only child and highly likely to remain that way, not by choice. Am reconciling myself to that - but always thought I'd have two children.
ALL my friends, and I mean ALL, who have children have more than one, or are about to have number two. Exception is one of my closest friends, who's son is a year older than ds. Her dh was adamant that he didn't want more children and she'd (with sadness) accepted that and so she was my one friend with just the one child - we go on holiday together, we live near each other and our boys play well together. I'd kind of got it in my head that they would help to fulfil some form of sibling-ship need for one another.
but now she's announced that she's pregnant, and of course I'm happy for her, it's what she wanted, she's my friend and I want her to be happy. but a bit of me feels so deflated. all around us are these big families of mum and dad, and 2, 3 or 4 children. and my family is just me and ds. and his special "only" friend will now have a brother or sister of his own and ds won't have that.
I do know that other people having children is completely irrelevant to my situation, and I am geniunely pleased for my friend, I just feel a bit gutted for me that I've lost what feels like my one bit of solidarity and understanding.
thanks for "listening", don't feel you need to post - just needed to put it in writing somewhere sympathetic!
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EyePeam · 22/06/2009 17:30
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