I am well aware this is not just an issue for only children- I was one of 4 and had great difficulty speaking up/standing up for myself - but I wonder if anyone with an only child has dealt with this issue with their child. I am interested in how you deal with this issue when your child doesn't have the daily rough and tumble that can happen in families with more than one child
DD age 5 is very shy and I think this affects her ability to stand up for herself greatly. I find myself coaching her a lot lately as to what to say to so and so who said XYZ to her or e.g., excluded her from play, but this sometimes feels limited compared to the daily practise on this she would get with siblings. She sees friends out of school regularly 2-3 times a week at least and we mix a lot as a family. I think this has helped her to a certain extent to overcome the worst of her shyness (she was so excruciatingly shy) and she is now quite sociable and fairly popular but she is still really reticent when it comes to asserting herself. Is it just a case of 'time will tell', something she will gradually learn with time or is there anything else that we can be doing with her? I have to admit it probably stirs up some unpleasant memories for me when I look back on my own childhood shyness (which BTW I have largely learnt to deal with well) I'm not really sure what I expect people to suggest here but it would be interesting to hear others' experiences.
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navelgazer · 20/03/2009 17:36
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