Sorry for these long ramblings but I am just trying to get a bit of perspective. Ds is 3.10 and due to start school in September and we have always said that we would try for a second. We even agreed a couple of months ago that we would start trying in the new year. Here comes the BUT ... we really cannot afford it. I know people say there is always a way but short of selling our home I am not sure I can see it! Dp works with his dad and they have their own company but work is a little slow at the moment so his income is very variable. I work for a tiny company and am really worried that we may have to shut up shop sooner rather than later and finding another job that enables me to earn the same salary would be hard if not impossible. We have a mortgage, full time nursery costs, loans, credit cards etc ... and no savings! Doesn't paint a great picture. If we were to try (and I still had a job and a home) then maternity leave itself would be soooo hard to deal with and I haven't even worked out how.
Dp is 40 and I am 38 so leaving it much longer really isn't an option. I feel like we need to make a decision and stick to it so we can either go for it or move on. I have never been broody .... ds wasn't exactly planned but really don't like the idea of ds being an only child. My db died and I really miss not having a sibling .. especially now that my parents are unwell.
Sorry this is so long ... I am probably just trying to get my own head round it. I thought we had made the decision but I am so worried about money and my job I am pretty sure we have made the wrong decision! Does anyone have anything they can add that might help me to make this decision?
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bodiddly · 02/01/2009 13:45
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