Is it only me?

[sososotired]

I have the most amazing DS who is 8months old and from the day he was born I have said I don't want more and I still feel that way financially and emotionally another child is not an option.
But I feel rather judged by "friends" who have more than one or who are intending to have more. People keep telling me what to do with DS to "make my life easier" CC for example well I don't want to do that with my child!
Or telling me that he will be unhappy and spoilt with no siblings??? WTF? Is it only me or do other one child families experience the same kind of thing? :(

[Rooble]

It doesn't matter if you have one child or twenty - other people will always have an opinion about your circumstances. (For that matter, they will also judge if you choose to have no children). You have to just let them have their opinion, ignore it quietly and enjoy the fact that you're happy with your life.

[Misfitless]

When I was pregnant with my last baby, some people were very openly rude. I had a lot of "Oh my God, are you mad? You must need your head seeing to!" type comments, as opposed to "congratulations!"

What on earth are you supposed to say to that? I literally stood their open mouthed, and in the end said something like "Yeh, I know, what are we like?" and then kicked myself on the way home for agreeing with them!

I lost count of the old "Haven't you got a TV?" chestnut!

It's not personal towards parents of one, I don't think. It's a situation that arises when you find yourself face to face with tactless and insensitive people who assume that because they wanted more/less children than you, that you must not know you're own mind!

Just wanted you to know that you're not alone, and to some people, only the number of children that they have themselves is the right number.

The only negative comments I got were from parents of only children, and my own mum , although that probably isn't relevant!

[Whereisegg]

People are twats op.
I'm getting married in September after ten years together, around 6 ish people have said stuff like Oh, you don't want to do that, you'll end up hating each other and divorced in a couple of years

[sososotired]

Enjoy your wedding!! They are probably just jealous because you get to have a wedding

[Whereisegg]

And the people you are jealous that you won't have to worry about getting a well child to school when the other is poorly, or referee arguments in the back of the car, or who has the biggest bedroom/lego collection/banana.
I am

[Whereisegg]

*people you know

[MrsC1966]

It's your life, do what's right for you. I've just 1 dd and it's always been great, plus only having the one has allowed us to school her privately etc.. Certainly not a spoilt child - she has never said I want in her life and has never in her 12 years written a Christmas or Birthday list. Block out the folks who make you question your decisions. Oh, and enjoy

[sososotired]

Thanks MrsC! I love mumsnet the support on here is amazing!

[unintentionalthreadkiller]

People just like to say something, anything, often without thinking, whether you have one child, are pregnant with no ten or anything in between. I have twins and the amount of comments in the beginning drove me mad and the are they IVF / did you have a natural birth stuff. Nod and smile, nod and amile

[sososotired]

[sososotired]

DH is constantly telling me to smile and wave! ;)

[MrsC1966]

PS. I asked my 12yr old dd - she's very happy and tells me that her friends with siblings constantly moan about them!