Hi everyone this is my first time posting in this section. My DH and I have one child, a ds aged 5 months. Between the two of us we have her hereditary conditions; DH has a congenital heart disease and I have autism.
Our little boy was born with no problems (obviously too young to know if he will have autism, but DHs heart condition was thankfully not passed on)As much as we love him he is a handful. DH is limited in what he can do physically (will be more of a problem when he's a toddler) and my autism naturally creates social limitations for me.
We are loving being parents but we both decided that we definitely want can cope with just one child. In fact, giving our circumstances, we are both overjoyed to have our lovely healthy son, and this is more than what we could ever want.
But friends and family keep butting in with inane comments such as "when are you having another? You can't leave ds on his own he needs someone to play with when he's older."
"An only child's a lonely child"
"It's cruel to just have one child"
As far as I'm aware:
1, it's nobody else's business how many children me and DH decide to conceive, or rather not to conceive.
2, you don't have to have siblings to have company- that's what friends and other family members are for.
3, last time I checked it wasn't against the law or classed as child abuse to have just one child.
And lastly 4, these people are not in our situation, they do no have a disability/autism, and therefor don't know how difficult it is for us and should therefor keep their mouths closed :)
I am just getting so sick of hearing this over and over. How does it affect anybody else in any way? It doesn't! DH and I are incredibly thankful and happy to have our lovely boy and that's all we need. Does anybody else have dealings with people like this? How do you cope?
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"An only child's a lonely child" fed up to the back teeth of this!!
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MoveYourArmsLikeHenry · 29/11/2013 21:50
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