do i want to pay for ivf to have another?

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hels71 Sun 03-Nov-13 18:04:23

We have one child through IVF. We re mortgaged the house to have FET which sadly failed.
I have dithered and dithered..........in the end the choice was not really ours as we could not afford the treatment (despite looking at many ways). If there was anything that I could actually do to give my daughter a sibling I would.....
The problem with IVF I think is that you just don't know if it will work....if we knew it would work we would have sold the house to fund it...
Not quite sure where I am going with this, but I think I am saying if I could have afforded the treatment then the changes in finances through having two would not have bothered me...
Good luck with whatever you try,,,

hootintootin Fri 25-Oct-13 21:29:41

Im only considering ivf because I'm worried I may regret not doing it when I had the chance. I also think having a lifelong companion a pretty good plus point about having a sibling. If I was blessed with another child id be over the moon.
But do I put us in a weaker financial state , we would have to move house, wouldn't be able to do private school, and I would have to go back to work and put new baby in nursery as we couldn't afford for me to be at home or have a long maternity leave.

hootintootin Fri 25-Oct-13 21:10:25

This may well be a long rant as I'm just trying to sort out my own thoughts. After a relatively easy IVF and wonderful pregnancy i'm thoroughly enjoying- almost!_ every moment of being a mum. I always wanted a big family as I'm from a family of four. Dealing with infertility was quite hard so of course I'm overjoyed now. Deep down I thought I might be one of those people who go on and get pregnant naturally after ivf but that's not happened so far. so its dawning on me that I may have to take action if I want another baby. If it had happened naturally then the decision would be made for me.
Now though I'm thinking do I want two if I can't have four? I'm happy, my husband is happy my daughter is happy. Having one child is so much more fulfilling than I thought it would be. I feel completp Id happily take my chances with any arguments... as a secondary teacher I see all sorts and only children are often popular and happy.

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