How do you help your only accept winning and losing?
SmallBoy, who will be four at the end of the month, seems to have picked up the concept of winning and just wobbles (sometimes dramatically) at "not being the winner first." It's usually at racing me from one lamp post to the next (a favorite game of mine to hurry him along the path when we're out) but has started when we play board games.
Last time we played games he one the first game then I won the second time we played and when he threw an almighty strop. I told him that sometimes we come in first and sometimes we don't and when he continued to wobble I told him I wouldn't play the game with him again while he was continuing to tell me he was the winner, not me, that he wanted to win. When he calmed down I talked to him again about winning/losing.
Today I happened to win the first game and he started again. I tried to explain again that we don't always come in first and it's okay to not always win. He wasn't having it, decided he didn't want to play that game and wanted to play another one "by myself so I can be the winner first."
He loves playing board games and I really enjoy playing them with him but I need some strategies to help him realize he's not always going to win/be first and it's okay.
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Scout19075 · 01/10/2013 10:52
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