Pre kids, Id always insisted "one only". DH knew, and he said he would prefer more than one, but that he would be happy with an Only. Just after the birth (horrific!), we botb wanted an Only.
Throughout the first year of DDs life, he became more keen on an Only (said perfect dynamic, house suits an Only, wages suit an Only etc), and I became broody. He agreed to another.
We fell pg with DC2 when DD was 18mo, but sadly miscarried at 11 weeks. During amd after the MC, I felt reticent about becoming PG again, as I found it both emotionally and physically draining.
Recently, I have been thinking again about whether and when we TTC. DH and I have said we will have a discussion at Christmas, as to what we want to do, giving mind and body a chance to.recover from the MC.
Whenever I think of another DC, its the 'fun' stuff - the pregnancy, the mat leave off with DD1, the name choices, the build up to the birth and anticipation. I see the practicalities.of a second baby as a negative - the night wakings, the inevetable guilt, the toll it will take on my body, the squeeze of.an extra child in.the home (and on the bills)....
Does.this.mean I want an Only? Are these reasons the same as what you feel when deciding on an Only?
I dont worry about DD not having a sibling - she has plenty little friends, a cousin we see regularly of the same age, can entertain herself etc. If we have another, itll be for dh and I.
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I really dont know how I feel.....do I actually want another or not?
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MortifiedAdams · 02/09/2013 10:04
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