I think I want one but there are loads of pros and cons each way. Have DS1 aged 20 months. Felt awfull the entire pregnancy,was an awfull birth (had to put a formal complaint in to the hospital) and then for months he had bad eczema (had to sleep with my arms across him to stop him scratching for months!) and reflux and was generally difficult. The first 8 months were stressful and then we got badly flooded and had to move for months while the house got sorted. I was so convinced at that point i didn't want another one that i got my OH to have the snip. Now DS is 20 months and I would really like another one. However we live in a small house and it would be hard for us to move, I don't get on with my brother and i worry how he may get on with a sibling. DS and i have a strong lovely relationship and I wonder if i had another one would it take away from that.
Lots of other mums i know are starting to think about another but they are younger than me and i am a bit concerned re the risks.
OH will have the reversal done if i want to (we would have to take out credit for the op), he leans slightly towards not having another but admits things have got alot easier to deal with as DS has got older and he loves him loads and is a great dad.
Then theres the little things that bother me like transporting 2 of them -we have no transport and live at the top of a hill. Or what if i get another one who is a bad sleeper - how could i deal with that - DS one still wakes about 3 times a night now.
I am getting older and realise time is not a luxury i have.
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hostelgirl74 · 24/08/2013 21:22
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