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2 miscarriages might mean no sibling for DS

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Mummytothearkbuilder · 23/06/2013 08:51

Morning ladies

I haven't posted in this section before and not really sure what I am trying to say - just helps to write it down!!

DH and I have a gorgeous DS who is 4 years old. We started ttc number 2 last July and have had 2 miscarriages this year and I'm starting to wonder if we will only have one DC - it's hard not to think something is wrong with my body in carrying pregnancies ( both miscarriages have been at 5-6 weeks).

I am trying to be positive about things and focus on building a career in my chosen industry however DH and I are still longing for another child and now DS has started asking!!

The most recent miscarriage was only 3 weeks ago so we are still feeling pretty sad about that but I just wanted to hear some positive stories of having one DC - everyone seems to give us the impression DS will suffer somehow from having no sibling.

Thanks (and sorry for waffling!) xx

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ChocsAwayInMyGob · 23/06/2013 08:57

So sorry to hear of your sad news. It's happened to me and it's a very deep well of sadness.

However, after losing 3 babies, we now have 2 DCs. He was worth the wait and the pain and the doubt and we couldn't be more delighted.

We didn't even think about trying for No 3 though. We couldn't tempt fate again.

Keep going, I conceived DS2 only 4 months after losing my 3rd. He is now 3 years old!

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Mummytothearkbuilder · 23/06/2013 10:29

Thanks so much for sharing chocos - it's so good to hear positive stories of successful pregnancies after losses.

We would love another dc and the longing is so hard to describe to people who haven't experienced it - the longing is always tinged with the sadness for the babies lost - I should be either 9 weeks pregnant or 30 weeks at the moment but lost them both :-(

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mum23girlys · 23/06/2013 10:41

Hi sorry for your losses x. I also lost 2 babies. 1 before I had my twins and the 2nd between twins and dd3. I waited 6 months after my 2nd mc before ttc again. I just wasn't emotionally ready. I was desperate for another baby but knew I just couldn't cope with pregnancy again at that time. I lost a much needed 2 stone that had been stubbornly hanging on since twins were born and then we went on a family holiday to Disney and I came back pregnant. Had a trouble free pregnancy and my beautiful dd3 was born 2 years ago on her due date. She's just amazing and I feel blessed every day.

My mil also had 2 mc between my dh and his db. Again a 5 year gap in the end

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RobotElephant · 23/06/2013 11:00

Sorry about your MCs. Don't give up hope though. 3 MCs and 2 years TTC and I'm finally 22 weeks. Its been very difficult getting here, but don't give up Flowers

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Mummytothearkbuilder · 24/06/2013 07:22

Thanks ladies - I really appreciate all your comments xx

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