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When will it stop??

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NoWayNoHow · 18/04/2013 16:15

Seriously, DS is 5.5yo and DH and I have been EXTREMELY vocal about having only one, by choice, but STILL people won't leave me alone.

Every time I see mum's friend, "So, have you changed your mind?", or every time I hold a baby and smile I get, "Ah, does it make you broody?" Even my own bloody mother had the audacity to suggest that maybe DS wouldn't be so bat shit crazy energetic if he had someone his age to occupy him. This coming from the woman whose 2 daughters fought for 7 years

When will they all shut up and leave me alone?? I'm so bored of the perpetual guilt trip combined with the everlasting insinuation that I'm some kind of biological freak by not wanting to keep going...

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NoWayNoHow · 18/04/2013 17:24

bump!

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Scout19075 · 18/04/2013 19:39

SmallBoy is 3.5 and I still get it so no advice just sympathy.

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outoffuel · 23/07/2013 17:06

It is something about the UK that makes you feel guilty about having just one. In the States it seems more common. The guilt tripping is terrible, and is just about doing my nut in too...!

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PersonalClown · 23/07/2013 17:09

Toad is 11 and I'm still getting it.

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LondonNinja · 23/07/2013 17:11

I know lots of one-child families so don't get asked often. But there is one friend who goes on and on. Fucking irritating.

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TattyCatty · 23/07/2013 17:18

If people ever ask me if I'd ever consider having another child (DD 7 is and will remain an only), I take great pleasure in giving them very graphic chapter and verse on my 2 years of investigations, operations and fertility treatment that it took to fall pregnant, the hideous 48 hour birth with every intervention known to mankind, my soul destroying PND and finally the reconstructive surgery that I needed to repair my poor raggedy bits when DD was 4 years old. It tends to stop them from asking me again............ Grin

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violator · 23/07/2013 19:27

The woman who continually tells me I can't leave DS "on his own" is aware of my PND, and also went through numerous IVF to have her own two children. So odd.

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Betrayedbutsurvived · 23/07/2013 19:32

My daughter is 29 years old, I am 46, and I STILL get asked if I'd have another.

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