Decision re 2nd dc has been made tonight...

[wibblyjelly]

DS is 6 months old, and our original plan was to wait until he was a year old, and then start TTC number 2.
However, due to issues with my work, we aren't able to afford to do it, so dh and I have made the sensible decision to wait until Ds is 2 and then discuss again.
I know this makes the best sense, and it means we can concentrate on ds without having to worry too much about the money side of things.
My head agrees, but my heart doesn't! I'm allowed to feel a bit disappointed, right?

[saycheeeeeese]

We decided to wait until dd is 3 and that's next year.

Your DS is still so little just try and enjoy him plus you probably still have those hormones running around I was incredibly broody after DD was born but now she's 18 months I know im not ready yet.

But yes it's ok to be sad, I feel a bit sad when I see newborns but then I remember I get a full nights sleep now and then the sadness disappears :)

[wibblyjelly]

Thanks cheese. I guess I'm slightly concerned as well, as you never know what the future holds, and it may not happen at all. Just going to concentrate on ds for the time being, and enjoy him. What will be, will be, eh?

[PhyllisDoris]

IMO, there's never a "right time". You will always talk yourself out of it if you think about it too much. And there's no guarantee you'll conceive when you plan to.
If it were me, I'd go for it. You'll manage. People do. And the DCs will grow up close in age so everything will be much easier.

[Snazzynewyear]

Of course you're allowed to feel disappointed, but I don't think a 3 year gap is a massive one - there seems to be a feeling on here that anything above 2 years between siblings is a massive unbridgeable divide! It will mean that you can get 15 hours free in childcare for DC1 when DC2 arrives which may prove valuable. Plus the 'you never know' applies all the time, whether you ttc in 6 months or 18 months. How old are you, is that a critical issue?

I would also say that from what I have see, 2 under 2/3 together is very hard work. Look on the bright side - a slightly bigger gap will ease this pressure.

[wibblyjelly]

I'm 31, so not a huge issue on the age front (I think!). My issue is that I liked having the plan. I'd geared myself up psychologically and emotionally to start TTC this year, and it's now been taken away, albeit for the time being. I'm sure in a few days time I will have gotten used to the idea. To be honest, when DH and I talked earlier, I'd already come to the same conclusion. Oh well, these things happen for a reason, don't they?

[saycheeeeeese]

Sure you're just a bairn yourself

Think about having your baby now plus a tantruming toddler, that should be enough to put you off :)