We have a lovely DS who is now 19 months and DH and I have agreed to have The Conversation about another child at the beginning of 2013. I already know that he would like another but I think I am leaning towards not.
With DS I had PE, picked up at 30 weeks and he was delivered at 31. I was very ill and he was in neonatal for 6 weeks. He was a tough baby, suffered with reflux and is still pretty hard work (love him dearly, of course). He didn't sleep through till he was 13 months and is still not a great sleeper. I still worry about whether he is developing ok and I feel that the stress of the past year and a half hasn't subsided.
My main fear is that all of this, or worse, could happen again. I will be 39 in Feb and I am so happy with my little family that I don't want to do anything that might shake things up too much.
DH is naturally a very positive person and I know that he will think all my 'what ifs' are not reasons enough not to do it. I'm not sure I can face the idea of being pregnant again, fearing all this.
I know that DH won't expect me to do something that I really don't want but am I being unfair if I put my foot down? How do we both get a fair say when we're going to disagree?
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JoEW · 08/10/2012 11:23
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