DH and I have a lovely DS, who is 6. I am very happy only having 1 child but I often feel like the odd one out when the 3 of us are together.
DS and I get on pretty well when it's just the two of us. For the first 5 years of DS's life DH worked very long hours and so when DH was around DS usually seemed to favour DH when given the choice of which of us he would like to read to him, bath him, play with him etc. DS and DH seem to have very similar personalities and they naturally gel better to the extent that I often feel like they are pushing me out of conversations and activities. I am quite creative and love doing things like drawing, cooking and painting, all things in which DS has zero interest despite my best efforts.
DH has now changed jobs and works fewer hours. Now I spend most of the time feeling obsolete. DS just wants to spend time with DH playing on the wii, playing football and doing other boy stuff. I just seem to spend all the time clearing up after them! It's making me feel really depressed to be honest. DH commented tonight that I don't seem to spend any time playing with DS, to which I replied that I have zero interest in playing computer games and anything I suggest doing to DS seems to be automatically rejected in favour of doing something with DH.
I feel like when DH is around I seem like a really uninvolved parent because I refuse to engage in a competition for DS's attention doing things and that DH is holding this against me in some way. When DH isn't around I almost feel like a totally different type of parent. I can't help wondering if the situation might have been reversed had our only child been a girl...
Anyway, sorry it's so long. Does anyone else ever feel this way?
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Nenufar · 08/09/2012 21:04
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