Getting them settled and then moving them !!

[nutcracker]

I was supposed ot be going back to college in September for 1 day a week.

I applied in March and put Ds's name down at the college nursery but thanks to completely stupid staff they didn't put his name down and now he has no place and the nursery is full.

They have said that they may be willing to fund a place elsewhere (and local nursery has a space) but that if for example he starts and then 6 weeks later someone drops out at the college nursery, I will have to move him to the college one, no questions asked.

I am really really not happy about doing that at all. It will be Ds's first time in a nursery environment as it is and I feel really bad that he would get settled and then have to be moved.

[nutcracker]

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[nutcracker]

No one has ever had to do this then.

[snowfallinthesahara]

babies are really adaptable nutcracker..as long as he gets good care,he will soon be fine!

[Distel]

How old is he?

[nutcracker]

He will be 2 yrs 9 mths when he starts.

[Distel]

He will probably be a little bit upset to start with, but if you say about all the new toys/friends he will have, it might be a new adventure.

[nutcracker]

I am just really annoyed that they would move a child just like that when it's their fault he hasn't got a place anyway.

I just hate the thought of getting him settled and into a routine and then having to start it all over again.

[Distel]

I know, but surely them funding him a place untill one is available at uni nursery is better than them saying that ds just has to wait untill one is available. I know it's a pain and somebody will probebly have a better suggestion, but we have been waiting since may as places wern't allocated properly. We were told we have to just wait. Sorry if this sounds insensitive to your ds, it isn't ment to. I know how hard it is for them to change as ds went from nursery to reception last year. I hope things work out as well as they can for you .

[bubble99]

Hi nutty. The day-to-day routines in nurseries are generally similar. Circle time, free-play, wash hands, lunch, sleep etc. I realise that he will have to get used to a new set of people when he moves, but the structure of the day will probably be similar. Before we opened our nurseries my DS2 was at a nursery for 10 months before it closed. We then had to move him to another nursery with completely different children and staff. It's not ideal but he will adapt and within a couple of weeks at the college nursery he'll probably be fine. Although he'll have to make new friends, the routines etc will be familiar.

Good luck with your course. What are you studying?

[sunnydelight]

DD (2 1/2) is starting a new nursery in September (ironically, also a University one) having spent one day a week since Christmas at one nursery, then three weeks in July at another - long story, won't bore you with the details! It's not absolutely ideal, but to be honest in the end I had to decide whether to disrupt her again to send her to the University one that I know is excellent (DS2 went there for 3 years), or leave her where she was just for the sake of continuity, though it isn't a patch on the university one. Children are generally more adaptable than we give them credit for, so I wouldn't worry too much. ps what are you studying? I'm going back for a year to do an MA in law.

[ionaming]

If the nursery is a good one & the staff genuinely love children, then your ds will settle in no problem. My DD never settled at her 1st nursery, despite the fact she was full-time. After 6 months I moved her as I wasn't happy with it. At nursery number 2, she walked straight in at her "visit" & never looked back - something she'd never done at nursery no. 1. At nursery number 2 she was settled right from day 1 this time .

[hellywobs]

My son went practically full-time to a nursery from the age of 7 months until he was 2. Then I changed jobs and had to move him to a new nursery. The first two weeks were hard (in that he cried when I dropped him off but stopped before I'd even got down the corridor), then he settled in well and I think this nursery is possibly better than the old one.

Will your son be going just 1 day a week? If so I don't think it will be a problem. If it were more days, I think it would be more of a wrench but children do adapt. It's not like moving from a childminder or being with mum all day to a nursery for the first time.

[littlemisspiggy]

nutcracker - children are v. adaptable. Try not to beat yourself up about it frustrating as it is given it's not even your fault he is in this situation. My DS had attended a nursery from 11 months and just after his second birthday we moved him (after much agonising) to one closer to home. He settled in straight away. 6 months later had to remove him for financial reasons and have just been able to reinstate him 6 months after that. Really worried that all this has been messing him about but again he has settled right back in and staff say its as if he never left. As long as the staff are good and the nursery is a happy one your little one should be fine either way.