My lovely mum in law (well my dp mum but she is as good as) fell very poorly last week and is in hospital. She was my 16mo ds carer for 3 days a week whilst I was at work. This arrangement is now no longer possible due to the nature and severity of her illness which is life changing.
So me and dp have had to find alternative childcare and we have decided to place our ds into a nursery. We had a good look round on monday and its lovely, ticks loads of boxes, its been voted outstanding by ofsted and dp has heard great things from his friends whose children have gone there. So in the next week we are hoping to sort out settling in days and then have ds start in October (both me and dp are off work until then helping with his mum and minding ds).
I just really wanted some reassurance from other parents whose children are at nursery. I know this is the best thing for us and him, but why do I feel so sick with guilt? I was so so lucky to have had his grandma to care for him and I trusted her completely. I have never left my ds with strangers before and I know he will get to know the staff and love it but honestly I am gutted. It's not about the money, my god it's expensive but we want the best for our ds it's just me being silly and fretting.
You hear all kinds on the news now about awful things happening to children and adults who are in the care of other people. I know these are isolated and rare cases and the nursery will have measures in place to avoid this sort of thing.
I also worry that my ds will hate me forever for leaving him, it breaks my heart to think he might be crying for his mum and I am not there.
The nursery manger has already reassured me this is normal and that it's mainly the parents that are upset rather than the children.
I am being completely pathetic, I had every intention of putting him into nursery for one day a week anyway when he reached a certain age, so I should be fine about this.
I think it's just the suddenness of it all, what had happened with dp mum was such a shock we literally were not expecting it at all. We are all trying to cope with what has happened and remain strong for dp mum. I feel so incredibly selfish for even feeling guilty about putting ds into nursery as dp mum is lying in hospital.
Please can some lovely parents out there just give me some reassurance, or if needed a slap to let me know everything will be alright.
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Ridersofthestorm · 19/09/2013 11:01
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