Should I change nurseries

[helpineedajob]

DD2 has been at nursery (b) for 9 months 1.5 days a week but doesnt seem happy there. Crys when i or dh drop her off and looks sad when i pick her up.

Nursery say she was the hardest baby they have ever had to settle but she is settled now.

Dd2 is now 18 months.

Should i try changing nurseries?

[helpineedajob]

name change didnt work, i am working.

I kept the op short but more info

dd1 started at nursery (a) at 9 months. I was made redundant when she was 2.5 and took a lower paid job. she didnt seem fussed about nursery didnt cry but didnt seem happy either so i moved her to a cheaper nursery (b) she loved it straight away and still does. she starts school in september so will be leaving nursery.

nursery (b) has bigger rooms so more children and a busier atmosphire. the staff are younger (not meaning to offend anyone)

nursery (a) has smaller rooms but still 8 children a room. most of the staff have been working the 15 years most have school age children or have grandchildren, so have more experiance and come accross as morning comforting. the nursery has a more homely feel.

nursery a is more expensive and money is still a worry, it is nearer to home though and between home and dd1 school so will be easier to drop of and pick up (espicially after work when time will be tight)

i am working extra hours from next week so dd2 will be at nursery for 3 full days (so may settle and be happier at nursery b then?)

my work contract finishes in february so im not sure what the future holds.

sorry if this is rambling i just dont know what to do for the best.
Sorry about the spellings im dyslexic and on my phone with no spell check

[notanyanymore]

I'm confused!! She was unhappy but now she's settled? Dd1 prefered current nursery to previous, and dd2 has only experienced the current one (nursery b)?
If dd2 WAS unhappy but is NOW settled, I'm not too sure why you'd now want to move her? (Not in an arsey way, just not sure if I've read your op right?)

[notanyanymore]

Oh I see due to logistics? I think if at all possible leave dd2 where she is settled

[helpineedajob]

if i thought she was happy i would leave her there but she screams when i drop her off and looks sad when i collect her. but nursery say she is more settled.

My instinct says she is unhappy. and may prefer the enviroment of the other nursery. but what if im wrong

[helpineedajob]

yes dd2 has only ever been to nursery b

[PeazlyPops]

Maybe it's because she's only there 1.5 days a week, it's harder for her to settle?

Some nurseries in the area have a min of 3 full days a week as they say its just too unsettling for the child otherwise.

[notanyanymore]

Oh well in that case I would try somewhere else (I did, on paper the first nursery seemed much better, in reality the second one suited dd1 much better and she was noticeably happier almost immediately)

[maja00]

If she still seems unhappy after 9 months I would move her. Smaller group sizes and more experienced staff are really important.

[insancerre]

what makes a nursery good or not is the quality of the staff
the impression I get from nursery b is that the staff are not very experienced-
Nursery say she was the hardest baby they have ever had to settle but she is settled now
settling new children in is something that should be a priority and not take months and she shouldn't really be still crying after 9 months
I would be tempted to go to the smaller nursery where the staff are more experienced

[Amiee]

I swapped my DD from a nursery with young, less experienced staff to a one where all the staff have been there a very long time and I couldn't be happier. DD is more confident, social and more settled.
I used to feel anxious about the first place, something just felt wrong but its hard to say what. I thought I was just being a bit over protective but Im so glad I listened to my gut.

[manfalou]

I worked in a nursery which DS1 went to since being 8 months old, he never settled ad it broke my heart to hear him scream when I was just in the other room (he never saw me so that wasn't the reason) When I fell pregnant with DS2 I made the decision to take DS1 out of the nursery I worked at as I Know other members of staff don't provide the care to the kids that I did. We moved him to another nursery which is waaayyy more expensive but he was sett;ed within 4 weeks. It took him 18 months in the nursery I worked at. Actions speak much louder than words. Do what you feel right.

Its sad that I didn't trust my work colleagues to look after my own child but at the end of the day I've seen how they don't do their job as I do mine and didn't feel comfortable that. Not to mention I knew how the staff are treated, what the atmosphere is like and new staff start on average every 6 weeks. .... I will say don't blame this on age of the staff it how the nursery train them and treat them which reflects in how they treat the children unfortunately.

[marrythomas]

can you have many more nurseries provided..?