Staff kissing children in nursery - what do you think?

[treestrees]

Hi - I saw a really interesting article on staff being told to stop kissing children in nursery on //www.daynurseries.co.uk

www.daynurseries.co.uk/news/article.cfm/id/1560390/nurseries-adopt-no-kissing-policy-to-protect-staff-from-being-accused-of-abuse

My son goes to nursery and a childminder and I would hate to think he didn't get kisses and cuddles while he was there.
I wondered what everyone else thought?

[TinyTear]

I am happy that my daughter gets kisses and cuddles at the nursery. She loves it there and I am glad she sometimes even naps in somoene's arms

[YeahBuddy]

My dts kiss the staff at nursery goodbye but won't kiss me
I have never ever thought of it negatively, children need that close human interaction, particularly when they are very young.

[DioneTheDiabolist]

If they ban kissing in nursery, how are staff going to deal with sore fingers/knees etc?. Anyone with any experience of children know that pains can be kissed better!

[LimitedEditionLady]

I am neither for or against.i dont mind when his favourite lady kisses him.Theres the germ thing though and also I didnt like it when a work experience girl we had never clapped eyes on snatched my son off me to say goodbye and ask for kisses.Thought it was weird and wanted to remind her hes actually my child not your experiment.

[ReetPetit]

why would she see him as her 'experiment' LimitedEdition - because she's a 'work experience girl?' just because someone your child likes/has a relationship with wants to give him a kiss, doesn't make him any the less 'your child'

[HoneyDragon]

Dd split her lip at nursery today, she got LOTS of cuddles and kisses.
For which I am very glad.

[LimitedEditionLady]

She only met him two hours before and was only four week placement and not in his room!!i had already picked my child up to carry him away and she literally came and dragged him out my arms and demanded a kiss.He didnt know her and didnt have a relationship.seemed very false as i said the ones he sees all the time i dont mind

[LimitedEditionLady]

Also why you so defensive about me saying that.Obviously I dont want my child kisding random people!!

[LimitedEditionLady]

Sorry missed what you said also,is it professional to snatch a child off their parents in a nursery?none of the girls he is left with ever do that?

[ReetPetit]

you didn't say that in your first post LimitedEdition (funny how this information is always added later on...)

if you are seriously saying she had only met him 2 hours before and literally came and dragged him out of your arms, then you have a valid point, that is not very professional. But as she is a 'work experience' girl, perhaps you could/did talk to the nursery teacher/leader about it?

[LimitedEditionLady]

No its not funny that i seem to have to explain myself to someone like its some kind of court room.I didnt think that I would spark someones interest as much as I have yours seeings as its not my post and I was just commenting on it.Its not information thats added on later I was replying to your comment to correct what you thought seeings as you seem to think you are judge and jury on what I have posted.( its funny how people put little sarcastic picky things in brackets)I wasnt asking for advice on it because I know it was not common practice or it would have been my post but as you have shown interest no I didnt say anything about it because I know she had been there a matter of hours and there were staff in the room that noticed.And yes she did just take him out my arms without saying anything such as "aww can i just give him a cuddle goodbye"or something which I btw dont mind.

[Thurlow]

There was a stonking thread about this a while ago, I can't remember what is was called now.

I think it's lovely. If you leave your child at a nursery or a CM then surely you want them to feel loved and cared for while they are there? And part of that is kisses and cuddles. And we all know kisses and cuddles are the best cures after falling over.

[Honeymoonmummy]

C'mon you two, just kiss and make up

No problems with mine getting kisses and cuddles.

[LimitedEditionLady]

None with mine if they actually know them and arent teaching my little one to kiss strangers he has no bond with lol that just worries me!

[mjap]

Most of the threads make the assumption that the person kissing is a female and are comfortable with this. It is likely that there may be a different view for some parents if the member of staff is a male. It is sad that based on the inapporpriate actions of a few, we may be depriving our children from receiving the comfort they need and deserve to thrive emotionally to protect ourselves from accusations . Its about knowing your parents and children. We are British and unlike other Europeans we resevere our affections for friends and family and those who we know well. We should never impose our affection where it not wanted.