Hi,
We started settling in our 16 month old in at a local nursery recently. She will be going there three days a week however so far has attended 5 'settling' sessions over 2 weeks. The first I was with her for a couple of hours, the rest she was alone and they have varied from 2hrs up to 4hrs. As of next week she is due to be starting full days (8-5) however so far she has been quite upset when I leave and extremely upset when I return. I'm not sure how upset she is when I am away, I think less (staff tell me this) but I am not convinced she is 'enjoying' it as when I arrive she also looks very tearful, is exhausted (wont sleep or eat there) and has her comforter and dummy to hand (only really for sleeping). She seems very overwhelmed. She is the sort of child that likes one-to-one attention / is shy in groups and so I picked a very small nursery (13 children) however it is perhaps still too much.
I am back at work 2.5 days so I definately need enough childcare to cover that. My work have been very accommodating the last two weeks allowing me to work from home a lot so I can collect her and bring home for babysitter to look after but obviously they are expecting me to be in the office for full days next week when she starts full days.
The other thing to add to this is that we move house next weekend, very local and closer to the nursery but I am concerned this is going to have some sort of negative effect on her.
Tonight she has struggled to go to sleep without both me and her daddy in the room...usually she's a great sleeper. She has become incredibly clingy which I don't mind I am just worried I might be doing the wrong thing.
Anyone have experience in this? The reason i want to stick with it is that the nursery is excellent, on our street and it's almost impossible to get a place in our area as so over subscribed. everywhere. We have been 6 months on the waiting list for this one. On the other hand I really don't want her to be unhappy so would consider child minder/nanny which would be possible probably.
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Settling in - Not going so well, advice please
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k4mi · 20/06/2013 22:22
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