I went back to work part time in June 2012. DS (now 2.5) and DD (4) started at a nursery 2 afternoons a week to make this possible.
DS has always been v.confident at playgroups I stayed at, never clingy, wanders off without a backward glance. DD settled fine at nursery and is in the 3-5 room. DS is in the younger room and was upset when I left but seemed to have adapted after 4-5 weeks, stopped crying and was apparantly happy once I'd gone and played until DH picked him up.
Then 3 months ago this all changed. No trigger I can think of but DS has become more and more distressed when left. Yesterday he was sobbing and trying to get back out the door before we'd even got his coat off. He screams and kicks his keyworker as they pick him up to allow me out. He still calms usually after 5 or 10 minutes but the distress seems more acute somehow.
I've tried quick drop offs and cheery byes.
I've tried staying a while then going.
I've tried giving him special toys to take in with him.
They've organised his favourite toy to be out on arrival (cars).
His keyworker is there to meet him, they know he has glue ear in both ears (waiting on consultant appointment in Feb). He is fine being left with granparents and at home doesn't follow me around.
What else can we try? He has gone from happily sleeping all night in his own room and bed to screaming, crying and sobbing if not allowed to sleep in MummyDaddyBed.
He's started preschool playgroup 2 mornings a week in December and sobs when I leave there too. It just seems so out of character for him I can't think what else to try. Looked into childminders originally but no spaces locally. Normal? Perservere? Worry about it???
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Lovethesea · 18/01/2013 16:04
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