Hello
Some of you may have seen I posted asking for thoughts on whether nursery one day a week is a good idea. I posted earlier this evening to say settling in was going well, but what I didn't mention - and have been stewing on! - is an incident that happened today.
My dd, 13 months, was playing and a 10 month old boy came up to her. At first it seemed he was being affectionate; I was further away from dd and the boy than the staff and wanted to see what they would do. They had told me that he bites. He put his mouth to dd and I got up. THe staff told him "no" very loudly and kept saying, but the one nearest to him didn't move (she was cuddling a child who, btw, is 14mths old and all the time I've been there - three half days in total now - has ALWAYS been getting one-on-one attention, being cuddled, while the other babies are left to their own devices.) DD cried, I went and picked her up. The staff told me that the boy didn't bite. Half-an-hour later she had a massive red mark. I pointed it out and said it looked like he had bitten her, and they finally conceded he did. The boy is very sweet and is only 10 months old, so obviously doesn't no better, but I have become increasingly upset about this over the course of tonight. DD has been in contact with other children at least once a week since she was 5 weeks old and has NEVER had an injury from a child before. Nor have I seen any child with a mark as bad as this. DH, who is more relaxed about this than me, says it looks like it will come out into a bruise in time.
I was planning on speaking to the manager about this tomorrow and saying that I do not want the boy being allowed to touch dd, and that if she receives an injury again I will withdraw her. I would also like the boy's mother notified. Is this reasonable? Do you think I should keep dd there? I was in the room at the time, so I do feel guilty, but as I said I was sitting back giving her space and watching how the staff responded to her. I do feel, as they know he bites, that the staff member nearest him should have pulled him off dd.
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Biting incident on day 3 settling in - what to do?
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TaiTai · 29/03/2006 23:20
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