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DS2 screams every morning when he goes to nursery

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chickenwings · 17/03/2006 09:17

He will be 3 in May and has been going to nursery happily for the last year three days a week. However, over the last month he tries to avoid nursery by undressing himself and running and hiding. He then screams all the way there and refuses to take his coat off when he arrives. He usually calms down after 10 mins or so and I then leave for work.

Have spoken to staff who say he is very happy.

I am hoping this is just a phase as there is no other reason he should be unhappy.

Any similar experiences/suggestions?

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wools · 17/03/2006 12:30

My ds had a phase of crying all the way to nursery and for the first 10 mins - then apparently had a great time for the rest of the day. His crying started at 18 months to 26 months. Then his younger brother started there and since then he's been fine. The nursery seemed to think it was because he was jealous that his sibling was at home while he had to come to nursery. It could be this but the crying did start before his younger brother was even born so who knows what was going on in his head.

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stoppinattwo · 17/03/2006 19:49

Sometimes they scream because they can! both mine sent me on the worst guilt trips because they had phases of crying, clinging etc.
I think at three they know and can explain what they like and dont like. If there was a real problem with nursery you may get some reasons from him. Try and make you dropping him off at nursery as quick as poss, if you stay till he's calmed down then youll be xpected to do it all the time, with both of mine it was just a phase, jolly him a long and keep things light and cheery -tell him Mummys got to go to work to get pennies for special treats etc and will be back extra specially early to pick him up. But at the same time trust your gut feeling. i believed that the only person who hurt when i left the nursery was me,if either DS of DD was crying it soon stopped as i left the building. Is there a window you can peep in, to see if he stops when your gone, without him seeing you? you do feel like the biggest cow in the world and its not easy, i would get to work sometimes and cry, i would phone nursery and they would tell me how happily she was playing.

If he doesnt want to take his coat of say "thats ok, its your choice, you dont have to take it off right now, maybe in a minute" then you stolen his thunder and he will probably take his coat off.

Hope i havent rambled but i know how it can ruin your day at work when youve had a bad start at nursery, hope ive been of some use. x:-00

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birty · 28/03/2006 17:12

my son is 3 and i'm hoping it's a phase too. The last 3/4 weeks he's not been wanting to go to school and I have to peel him off me and the teacher has to shut the door quick because he tries to run after me. I hate it totally makes me feel fed up before the day has begun. I ve tried saying that if he waves to me happy as the class room window I would bring his bike when I pick him up and he liked the idea odf that but when it came to dropping him off the same thing happened. I reminded him all the way to school and he was happy but as soon as I was to leave crying! Ive tried telling him that he's making me sad and that don't know whether I should or not but said he can't have sweets after lunch because he was crying again at school and making me sad to see if that works. Do you think that crawl? Any suggestions on what to do

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