How do I know if I should stay or go?

[Greeneyes87]

Hi there,

I am hoping for some advice regarding my current relationship. I am 26 and have been with him for 14 months. This is my first ever serious relationship and I am currently unhappy and am thinking about leaving. I love my partner and he is a great catch! I just am not sure if I can continue living like this.

I am bored with our sex life, but I can't tell my partner this. He always says that it is important to him that I cum, but he really doesn't try too hard. What I mean by this is he doesn't try anything new with me when I tell him I am finding it hard to orgasm. I want him to offer to touch and play with me. I want him to suck my breats and get me to touch myself. I just want him to try and really satisfy me in any other way then his usual boring routine.


I try and drop hints and have told him how sexually unsatisfied I am, but I don't think he gets that the problem is mostly him. I want to spell it out to him, but I don't want to be mean about it. I want passion and fun!

I lack confidence as it is and feel afraid about what may happen if I don't say that he is a boring lover. I am not sure how to break it to him?

He has children from a previous marriage that I am learning to accept, but I think I have decided that I do not want children as I resent his at times and do not agree on how he raises them. I do like the children and want the best for them. He only has them a few days a week.

He is also untidy and disorganised. I have told him how much his mess upsets me and he is putting in a great effort and is the cleanest he has ever been since I have know him. His kids are also getting better, but they all have a long way to go.

I just need to know is this relationship worth it? He has so many great points, but do these other issues outweigh the positives? He us funny, reliable, genourous and comforting. I am new to relationships and need to know what to do. Am I not prepared for a serious relationship with a messy boring man with kids?

Please help thanks.