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Hello I'm having an Affair with Married man and I want to stop

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Squirrel5 · 03/02/2014 21:45

I have been having an affair with a married man for 8 months and I can't stop. I am married too for 10 years. MM has been with wife for 12 yrs and has a 10 yr old, he says he loves me and cares for me but cannot leave his wife. I have fallen madly in love with him. We see each other 1 x a week and talk during the week 2-3 times a week. My husband is wonderful we have no issues, he adores me and would be devastated if he found out. I have read a lot about affairs, addiction, reasons why people do this, and I am in counseling to try to get this bad cycle to stop. Any advice would help. I want my life back.

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Quinteszilla · 03/02/2014 21:47

Cross your legs.

NotAnotherPackedLunchBox · 03/02/2014 21:48

Quint

K8Middleton · 03/02/2014 21:48

Tell him "no!" and tap him on the nose with a rolled up copy of The Times if he gets his lad out anywhere near you.

Ruprekt · 03/02/2014 21:49

Delete his number from your phone.

Imagine the look on your husband's face if he found out.

Stop being so selfish and go cold turkey on him.

Go to a STD clinic and get yourself checked out.

Preciousbane · 03/02/2014 21:50

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lunar1 · 03/02/2014 21:51

Are you possessed and being controlled by a evil spirit? If not then just stop it, if you are you will have to look into some kind of exorcism.

flowery · 03/02/2014 21:51

"I can't stop"

Is there a gun to your head? No? Then you can stop, you're just choosing not to.

Quinteszilla · 03/02/2014 21:52

You can also try grow your own penis.

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LittleBearPad · 03/02/2014 21:52

Then stop. You can do. You just don't want to.

HTH

JoyceDivision · 03/02/2014 21:53

Marry him,have a couple of kids, you'll soon find that culls any desire

So, you can't say no to married men and you need grown ups tp help you stop seeing them? At what point are you going to stop acting like a ickle wickle princess and do the right thing, even if it means making a decision that might be, gasp, a bit uncomfortable and, bigger gasp, meaning its not all about you? Is it just not the right sort of adoration and love from your husband?

Good luck with putting the brakes on that marriage wrecking thing ya got going on there!

Quinteszilla · 03/02/2014 21:54

Growing your own penis will help on two accounts:

Your lover may not like a woman with a dick
You can help yourself in more ways than one

morethanpotatoprints · 03/02/2014 21:55

Let me think
Look up the word immoral

K999 · 03/02/2014 21:58

OP - just think of the devastation this will cause. That should make you stop. And if you have no issues in your marriage, why have an affair with a married man

onetiredmummy · 03/02/2014 22:00

You will always be 2nd to his wife. By telling you he can't leave her he's firmly putting you in your place as a bit on the side and that's all you will ever be. Seriously is that what you want?

If it is then leave your husband and live like that, you're a grown up and can do it if you want. Men have had
mistresses for years, its nothing new. Just be prepared to be dropped like a hot potato if the wife does find out .

Or make an effort with your husband and rekindle your marriage. Get rid of your lust for mm by thinking clearly about the risks you are taking with your family.

It's up to you and I understand lust and how it can cloud your judgment, but you need to decide which man you want before it all comes crashing down around you and both men decide you're not worth the aggro.

Squirrel5 · 03/02/2014 22:24

How do I develop will power?

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Squirrel5 · 03/02/2014 22:25

How do I develop will power?

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K8Middleton · 03/02/2014 22:27

Forget will power. You need a chastity belt. HTH

phoolani · 03/02/2014 22:27

Oh, wow, are you ever in the wrong place for actual, helpful advice. Or indeed, for any acknowledgment whatsoever that to err is human. Good luck.

ExitPursuedTheRoyalPrude · 03/02/2014 22:30

Bless.

Squirrel5 · 03/02/2014 22:32

Such great advice. Thanks. How do you develop will power?

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DaleyBump · 03/02/2014 22:33

You put your pants back on, that's how

K8Middleton · 03/02/2014 22:35

Daley.

Or don't take the pants off in the first place?

Op have you considered getting a little part time job to pass the time you currently spend shagging? Bit more productive and financially rewarding.

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BlessedAssurance · 03/02/2014 22:48

Become born again. Jesus is what you need right now. He will give you all the will power you need and more and when He does keeping your legs closed won't be a problem. Good luck.

LittleBearPad · 04/02/2014 19:01

Delete his number and all other contact details.

Don't see him again under any circumstance.

Get some self-respect and some respect for your husband too.

bradley321 · 05/02/2014 14:36

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