Have you ever encountered anyone this cheeky?

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Inspired roughly by a couple of threads recently...
I used to have a friend (used to being the operative) who would come round to my house to smoke. Her reason being that she didn't want her house to smell like smoke and she didn't like smoking in the street as she thought it looked 'common' (her words)

The punchline being that I didn't smoke
That friendship ended when I saw the light and realised that she was using me! She was happy enough to make my house stink and I was too polite (at the time) to ask her not to as I thought I was being a welcoming host.

Has anyone encountered anyone with more brass neck than that?

alemci Fri 11-Jul-14 18:47:18

a close relative is cheeky. he takes advantage of my dm. used to stay alot when we were kids and eat our food but never contributed or brought say a gift for my parents

my db was a student he went to stay with them with his gf. They lived abroad. the relative with his family left my db alone in house over Christmas while they went to stay with another relative. they left no food for them and complained to my dm that db made no contribution (students)

my gm used to extol his virtues and it was always poor ....,. syndrome.

dm frequently supported relatives ex wife and his dc having them to stay, buying lunch etc

roll on about 20 years' dm with new dp living in dps house. relative came to stay bringing new partner. dm's dp was not impressed when they kept eating his food, hardly replaced anything, made lunch for days out etc, never asking, helping themselves to alcohol.

dm hinted that as she would be out, could they sort their own evening meal hoping they would dine out or buy food, but no they helped themselves to frozen pizza.

her dp furious but dm wouldn't confront relative.

next time he came he ate all the cake without asking and took over tv.

dm said something tactful and relative stormed out. she tried to contact him and sent cards etc.

a year later he condescended to contact her saying he would overlook the petinesshmm

JewelFairies Thu 10-Jul-14 22:34:49

If this isn't the most classic of the classic threads I don't know what is grin thanks

hollycomputer Thu 10-Jul-14 20:56:07

It's taken me hours to read this thread but it's utterly gripping!

I have one:

When I was a student I was living with a guy who was pretty feckless. He was a creative type who didn't see why he should have to work, especially as I was working, despite the fact I didn't really earn enough to support us both. Things reached breaking point with us and he was offered a job abroad for a year which he decided to take.

At the time, we were living in a rented flat and I couldn't get out of the contract so he invited his brother to stay while he was away (without consulting me). I was pissed off that he hadn't asked me but I got on OK with the brother and was relieved that I'd be getting money towards rent and bills as exDP told me his brother had agreed it.

Brother moved in and was commuting back and forth to London for work, but he'd meet me every day and we'd go to the supermarket to buy dinner. For the first week, he'd either make an excuse when we got to the tills - 'Oh, I've spent so much money today, would you mind getting this?' (obviously he expected me to cook too). Or he'd just disappear saying he had to go and get something, then reappear after I'd gone through the checkout all disappointed and apologising for not being there when I paid. Funnily enough, he never offered any money, just said he'd buy me a takeaway next time.

I got wise to this after a few days and would make sure I either didn't meet him after work or made a point of buying only my own food, to which he huffed and puffed and passive-aggressively whined about being skint. Yeah, tell me about it, I'm doing a 40 hour week at minimum wage while writing my dissertation, mate. He refused to pay any money for bills, borrowed my mobile phone if I made the mistake of leaving it lying around, and when I eventually asked him for money towards rent he refused, saying that it wasn't fair because the bed in the spare room was smaller than he was used to. So I said he had to find somewhere else to live. He kicked up massively, calling me stingy and spent days in a strop.

After about a week he found somewhere else to live, but made a point of saying he would move out while I was at work. This rang alarm bells so I made sure I would be at home, only to find him helping himself to food from my fridge to take with him to his new flat along with some of my bedding, towels and kitchenware. I saw him loading it into boxes and confronted him, only to have him start moaning about how selfish I was and he was 'only borrowing' it. Like fuck. I took it all back and a massive row ensued when he called exDP demanding he 'make' me apologise to him! Thankfully, the next day he left. But I had to throw out the pillow he'd used because he was a skanky bastard who never washed his hair and the stains wouldn't come out. I also found out that he'd been stealing from a bottle of Stolichnaya I had in the freezer which I'd been given as a present - it was nearly completely water which he'd topped the bottle up with so I didn't notice.

To cap it all, I'd got exDP a phone on my account which he ran up £600 worth of bills on then tried to get out of paying. I made him pay it. About six months after we split up (which unsurprisingly wasn't too long after brother-gate), he phoned me at work and begged me to lend him money. I said no and asked him when he planned to pay me back all the other money he'd borrowed. He went quiet. I hung up. Never heard from him again. smile

Dunwhingin Sun 06-Jul-14 22:26:33

Hmm so.....
At school I had a group of lovely friends, one of whom had a HUGE crush on someone we shall call 'the wimpy kid', if she wasn't the centre of attention then she would have an attack of the vapours, fluttery eyelashes, deep breathing and all the boys would rush round. She didn't ever pay for anything when we went out either.. And we didn't get rid.. sigh
At my 17th birthday everyone thought she was with my boyfriend as she was attached to his arm limp limpet like..

Fast forward a few years, another friend had taken the boyfriend and wimpy kid moved in with them as she was studying nearby..... What was meant to be a solution for a few weeks whilst she found accommodation turned into a few years..
She married him.. After the previous girlfriend had seen him through a really really difficult set of events and with the wimpy kid on the sidelines eating their food, biding her time presumably

So... A few more years, the long suffering ex girlfriend got back in touch with me, we kind of started a friendship again, she has the hide of a fucking rhino and I was still a wet blanket... I couldn't stay pregnant, she knew this, but when pregnant by accident who did she come to for abortion advice.. And who did she want to see every week with the baby she decided to have, on my only day off a week, working the endless hours because I had no child......
She pulled a massive strop on the final day she came to spend the day with me because she came to the house and I wasn't here ..... Cruel I was cruel....
I eventually learnt the power of the words 'bugger off' for all of this trio and I'm much harder with freeloaders, wasters and anyone with their bloody PA agendas. It did take some time and there was the one that slept with two boyfriends, a young cousin and an ex husband.... The one that used me for free childcare and dented my car and made me out to be a freeloader and the one that came to stay and never lifted a finger, bought wine any of the 12 or so occasions until I directed him towards a hotel....

Nanasueathome Sun 06-Jul-14 19:10:00

My daughter and another girl were at the same school and so we got to know the parents quite well as the girls were friends
We ran a pub at the time and the couple, together with their daughter, would often pop into the pub for lunch on Saturdays- and me being the soft touch would feed them for free
The husband then went to work away for a couple of weeks and so I invited the mother and daughter for Sunday lunch
That then set the ball rolling and they assumed they could come for Sunday lunch as well each week
Put a stop to it when she started to ask mid week what we would all be having for lunch on Sunday
No invite was ever given back to us , it was all kne way, and with no contribution from them whatsoever
Even thinking about it now really angers me and makes me realise just being taken for a mug

McFox Sun 06-Jul-14 19:03:37

Misty they are being unbelievably cheeky, get rid of them!!

AcrossthePond55 Sun 06-Jul-14 18:50:46

Gobsmacking thread! I really can't think of a tale to add, though. The thing I'm worried about now (after reading the entire thread instead of doing housework) is that I can't decide whether I truly have just lovely friends who would never do things like this or if I'm just a great big mug who can't see when she's been taken advantage of!

expatinscotland Sun 06-Jul-14 18:44:09

misty, this couple are not friends. They are cheeky, user, pisstakers.

Inviting themselves round for dinner and telling you to cook, the trip, etc.

Keep making excuses and find people who are not users.

Do NOT subsidise them anymore.

misty75 Sun 06-Jul-14 18:37:20

My friends, a married couple, asked me to go on holiday to a festival with them. I initially agreed, and bought a ticket, and then I backed out after she (female friend) made it clear that she expected me to pay for half of everything, effectively subsidising their flights, transport, accommodation, eg. if the transport was 300 for 3 people I was to pay 150. She justified this by saying that as a married couple they were one entity, as was I, as a single person. She also justified it because they have a daughter and I am childless. They both individually earn more than me (not that it would make any difference, unless I was rich, in which case I'd be happy to pay). I backed out of the trip and said I couldn't afford it. She was hurt that I'd changed my mind, but it didn't seem to occur to her why I couldn't afford it. I'd already bought a ticket but ended up flogging it on ebay.

Should have realised they would be like that after several occasions when they invited me round for dinner and said they would do the food and asked me to bring the drinks, so I got enough wine or beer for 3 people and we had a jacket potato and a fishcake. Recently she's asked me if I want to meet up. 'Great, shall we go out?' I say. 'No, can I come to yours at 7, trying to save money' she says. I say 'Ok, fancy a takeaway or a pizza?' She says 'Can't afford, but can come to yours for dinner and are you up for cooking something, maybe salad and burgers?'

Is she being cheeky? I think so but am not very confident right now after v recent abusive ex and I keep getting confused and wondering if I'm in the wrong. Also told her about the abuse (serious stuff and not appropriate for this thread) a month ago, and she didn't even reply. Asked her why she didn't reply a few days ago. She said sorry, there is a lot going on in her life, that she does care about me, but she still didn't ask how I was. Damn, it's making me angry writing this, but I am so scared I'm just being a horrible entitled person because I haven't got kids sad

McFox Sun 06-Jul-14 15:12:26

I love that this thread just keeps on giving smile I'm also glad that I now know the full story of the legendary mexican house thief!

I have another story to add up the bat shit crazy family pile. So, my ex BIL had been unemployed for a long time, and miraculously (because he was a lazy sod) managed to get a job, but it was out in the sticks and he needed to drive to it. I had a brilliant car at the time, but I rarely used it. BIL asked if I'd sell it to him within the next few days so that he could start this new job, and my ex pressured me into it. It was worth £2k but I agreed to sell it to him for £1k as he was pretty skint. He gave me £350 right away and was to pay the rest out of the next couple of months wages.

What actually happened was that he wrote my pride and joy car off within the week!! He then claimed the full £2k it was worth from his insurance company and kept the bloody lot because he still needed to get a new car to get to work, and I didn't need a car. My ex agreed to this without even having discussed it with me!! I didn't see another penny from him.

In my defence I no longer put up with such bullshit, and I escaped from this family of twats grin

Nalia Sun 06-Jul-14 02:30:54

A now-ex friend had debt problems and I lent her 500 quid to pay off one that supposedly she had debt collectors after her for. She said she'd pay me back in installments and that was fine.

She took me out to dinner a week or so later at a pub, one of those cheap two meals for 15 pounds deals, and a couple of drinks. Nice, right? Not really. When I asked her for her installment on the loan she insisted she'd paid me back already. With the dinner. Not only was she not going to be giving me the installment, she insisted that she no longer owed me any money at all.

I never did see any of that money back. I found out later that she had used it all on partying and never paid the debts at all. Needless to say she's no longer my friend.

CruCru Tue 01-Jul-14 22:04:36

I know of a guy who, when someone bought a round, would go to the bar to help carry some drinks. Then when he got back to the table, he would act as though he had bought at least half the round.

Walkacrossthesand Thu 26-Jun-14 12:32:27

The thing is, the cheeky graspers are so cunning, aren't they? I was on a group walk followed by pub lunch. Bill came, was passed around, everyone looked at what they'd had, put in the right amount of cash (often rounded up, mostly with 10% added for tip). I happened to notice that one of the group was avoiding looking at the bill, and hadn't put any money in. The group leader totter up the money, counted it once, counted it twice, said 'that's odd, we're short' - and it wasn't till she looked around and explicitly said 'someone hasn't paid' that the woman pretended she hadn't been aware the bill was going round, and coughed up. She'd been hoping that the 'rounding up' of 14 people would give her a free meal.
The next walk we were both on, I noticed that she went up to the bar with me and stood very close to me when I bought my drink. There was * no question* of me offering to get her a drink as I would for anyone else, but I'm pretty sure that's what she expected me to do. She looked a bit cats bum face and when I pulled out a £20 to pay, made a snarky remark about 'nice to have that kind of money'. Haven't got any time for her.

Hurr1cane Thu 19-Jun-14 21:25:27

I kept his tumble drier though.

He once asked for it back and I told him that once I'd gotten the 6 months rent and bills that were owed and he collected his cat he could also collect his drier.

He never did bother.

The cat is like part of the furniture now and I do quite like her smile

Hurr1cane Thu 19-Jun-14 21:20:42

Phew got to the end!

It's taken up my entire day but has been well worth it!

I once had an ex who was living in a house share with his friend. His friend was horribly unreasonable to him and they'd had a massive fall out. If been with him a couple of years then and had a well paid job so I told him he could move in with me and keep on paying his rent in his house share until the tenancy agreement was up (in two months) and then after that we would share the rent at my house. All fine, but when the two months was up he carried on not paying anything despite constant reminders. He lived with me for 6 months claiming poverty (I had a good job and could afford it but wanted it to be fair) while having bits of car delivered to my house so he could improve on his boy racer mobile.

Eventually I came home from work and turned on my computer (had been left on and the screen turned off) to find that he had been using my electricity, my computer and the internet that I bloody paid for in my house that he didn't pay any rent toward to go on a renowned site for people who wanted to have affairs!!!

He was very put out to find his clothes packed in suitcases on the doorstep and the latch on when he came back from one of his boy racer meet ups.

He left his cat saying if he took her he'd have to take her straight to a shelter. But if I kept her he would get her again when he had sorted perminent accommodation. That was 3 years ago. I still have the cat.

sykadelic Wed 11-Jun-14 04:17:09

I'm reading all this thinking (like a few people it seems) thank god I don't know anyone like this... and then another post reminded me:

My sister and her husband flew to our wedding (as a surprise) which was in another country. I had moved overseas and our wedding was in my husbands home state (MidWest), but we lived in another (South).

1. Neither she nor her husband wanted to rent a car so my fiance had to drive them around to entertain them while we were trying to finalise things for the wedding as everything before this had been done via telephone, email or thanks to DFIL.

2. On the night before the wedding, DSis and I stayed at my MIL's house, and her husband and my DF stayed at a friend of DF's. 2am on the morning of our wedding my sister woke me to tell me her DH didn't want to stay at the friends and my DF was driving them to their hotel, in another town over 15 minutes drive away (that's okay, I don't need to sleep and neither does the groom!)

3. The morning of the wedding DSis and DBIL forgot the speech she was supposed to give at the reception for my DP's who couldn't attend so (new) DH and I had to drive them to their hotel (still another town away) to pick it up (wedding dress and all).

4. The day after the wedding their flights weren't leaving for a couple of days and it wouldn't be "fair" to them if we left for our honeymoon right away, they had traveled internationally after all

5. I heard from my DM later that they complained about how boring it was where the wedding was, and that I was mean to my DH (they overheard PART of a disagreement and fashioned it to their liking).

6. We later bought a house in DH's hometown (where the wedding was) and DSis will tell anyone who will listen that we live "in the boondocks" (when people ask about why we have a mortgage and they still rent - our house doesn't "count"). Their only experience being the days leading up to our wedding when we had stuff to do!

Still DSis, my DM came to visit a couple of years ago. First international trip, ever at 50+ y/o. DSis didn't want to tell me DM was visiting at all, wanted it to be a surprise. Income is different here so I really needed the time to save and thankfully I got it.

When DM returned home DSis told DM in the car leaving the airport that DF wasn't well (I knew, he'd taken a turn and DF wanted her to enjoy her holiday so she wasn't told) so DSis PUT HER ON A TRAIN to our home town. It would have been a 2.5 hour drive and was a 4 hour train ride instead... worrying about her husband :S

Yeah... she takes the p*ss a lot now I think about it!

TravelledByVacuumTube Wed 11-Jun-14 00:09:33

FatherDickByrne I, too, warm to your DHBro and his deep pockets and his sense of mischief.

TravelledByVacuumTube Wed 11-Jun-14 00:06:42

Another one: was recently at a very naice historical event with a big tent selling quite pricey English Heritage souvenirs, jams, booze, etc. There was a station with a bowl of cracker pieces, and a long line-up of the dozen types of expensive jams and chutneys they sold, each with a little wooden disposable spatula - the idea was you'd use the spatula to smear a little of the jam on a bit of cracker to try it before buying a jar. All the crackers were gone, and there was a little girl, no adult in sight, using the spatula from one jar to eat the jams she liked. She then sucked the spatula clean, stuck it back in one of the testing jars, and ran off.

I called the lady behind the trestle over and suggested she might want to replace the spatula, because of the vigorous dribble-soaked double-dipping of the little girl, and she rolled her eyes and told me that a woman with five kids had come in, parked the kids in front of the jam/cracker station, told them to fill their boots, and then she had buggered off. The kids only started to drift away when all the crackers had gone.

TravelledByVacuumTube Tue 10-Jun-14 23:54:00

And yes, half the stories involving kids here, I'd have been on the phone to social services.

TravelledByVacuumTube Tue 10-Jun-14 23:53:21

I love you all on here. All of you. My god, the things people have tried on with you all!

Name changed for mine. Was on a hiring panel for a job a few years back - not in the organisation I worked for, but in one I was associated with, so there would have been no reason for anyone applying to know in advance that I was on the hiring panel.

Of the applications we received, one claimed to be my assistant (I don't have an assistant) and another claimed to have been in my post before I was in it (there was nobody in my job before me as my particular post hadn't yet been created). You can imagine my confused as I read through the forms.

Thing is, it's not even as if I'm some kind of high-flyer - I have a specific but fairly low-to-middle-ranking admin post. If you are going to lie like a rug on your job application forms, at least make it spectacular: "senior field agent handler with Her Majesty's Secret Service", "lead soprano at La Scala", "lion tamer", etc etc.

Threw me a bit, though. I felt a bit naive at being surprised that people lie like this!

SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires Tue 10-Jun-14 21:36:58

That's the one Avery.
I just hope that the father has come to realise that his actions were wrong & now has help with raising his son.

Hissy Tue 10-Jun-14 19:23:23

It's taken me 3 days to read this!

Thanks so much, it's been totally amazing to hear all the stories of these amazingly bulletproof people!

AveryJessup Tue 10-Jun-14 05:57:25

I thought the same thing, Steam, when I read that post. (You mean the brain-damaged little boy left alone to cry by a tenant, right?). I thought the OP should have phoned social services on the father because that's horrible. Lucky as he was to have had a kind neighbour in the OP, what about his long-term well-being? Poor little thing...sad

SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires Tue 10-Jun-14 03:11:24

I wonder what happened to the disabled little boy? sad & angry

Thanks, Father grin

MN was awesome. Without the reassurance that I wasn't being unreasonable I might still be unable to wander over there.

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